When “Fine” Isn’t Enough — How to Get Unstuck in Your Marriage with Sharon Pope
If you’ve ever caught yourself lying awake at night wondering, “Should I stay or should I go?” — this episode of The Midlife Makeover Show is for you. 💔
Relationship expert Sharon Pope joins Wendy Valentine for a heart-to-heart about midlife marriage struggles, emotional disconnection, and how to finally find clarity in love. Sharon has helped thousands of women (and men!) navigate the messy middle between staying and leaving — that confusing, foggy place where your heart says one thing and your head says another.
Let’s dive into the truth about love, loneliness, and liberation at midlife.
💫 What You’ll Learn:
- Why so many midlife marriages drift into disconnection
- How to tell if it’s you, your partner, or the circumstances causing the distance
- The surprising reason we fear change more than unhappiness
- Why separation can be a healthy reset, not a failure
- How to find peace — whether you choose Marriage 2.0 or Divorce Differently
The Midlife “Stay or Go” Dilemma
At midlife, women often face a reckoning — not just with their bodies and careers, but with their relationships. Sharon says it best: “We get disconnected from ourselves, and when that happens, we’ll feel disconnected in our marriage too.”
After years of focusing on work, kids, and everyone else’s needs, it’s easy for your relationship to get pushed to the back burner. One day you wake up and realize the spark is gone — and you’re not even sure who you are anymore.
This episode reminds us that disconnection doesn’t always mean the end. It can be a wake-up call to reconnect, renegotiate, and redefine love on your own terms.
Why “Fine” Isn’t Fine
Maybe your marriage isn’t terrible. It’s fine. There’s no screaming or chaos — just quiet discontent. But as Sharon says, “For some of us, fine isn’t fine.”
You can love a good person and still outgrow the relationship. You can appreciate the stability yet crave something deeper, truer, more aligned with who you’ve become.
That doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you awake.
The Fear of the Unknown
Sharon and Wendy dive deep into the real reason so many people stay stuck: fear of uncertainty.
Sharon explains, “Human beings will choose discomfort that’s familiar over freedom that’s unknown. That’s how much we fear change.”
Our minds want guarantees, but growth doesn’t work that way. The unknown may be scary — but it’s also where your new life begins. When you trust that you’ll have your own back, you’ll move forward with confidence, presence, and grace.
The Power of Separation and Self-Discovery
For some couples, a separation can actually be a helpful “pattern interrupter.” It’s not always the first step toward divorce — sometimes it’s a reset button.
As Sharon explains, “When you’re not in the same house repeating the same routines, you can see things more clearly.” You get to step back, breathe, and ask yourself what you truly want — not just as a spouse, but as a whole, independent woman.
Life Beyond Divorce
If your journey leads to divorce, Sharon offers a powerful truth: “You can end a marriage, but you take yourself with you. If you don’t learn the lesson, you’ll repeat it.”
That’s why she encourages women to take time to rediscover themselves after a relationship ends — to explore who they are without anyone else’s energy in the mix.
As Wendy shares, “I got divorced and married myself — it was the best decision I ever made.” 💪
This conversation is a reminder that divorce isn’t failure — it’s an opportunity for transformation.
Sharon’s Framework: Marriage 2.0 or Divorce Differently
Sharon’s coaching programs give women tools to stop spinning in confusion and start taking action. After applying her foundational tools, many clients realize they’re not ready to give up — they create what she calls “Marriage 2.0.”
Others find peace with ending the relationship and move into “Divorce Differently,” a process grounded in clarity, compassion, and self-respect.
Either way, the goal isn’t to rush the decision — it’s to make it from peace, not pressure.
Reclaiming Your Power in Midlife
Sharon reminds us that freedom never works one way: when you free yourself, you free someone else too. Whether that means rebuilding your marriage or rebuilding yourself, the point is to choose from awareness — not fear.
Midlife isn’t the end of your story. It’s your chance to rewrite it.
👉 Connect with Sharon!
Want to get unstuck and make a decision about your marriage? I’ll teach you how in my FREE Video Course: http://sharonpopefreetraining.com/
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