We are just two weeks away from bringing in the new year! Woo-hoo! LET’S GO 2023! Most people set new year’s resolutions, but I encourage you to think a little bigger than that. A lot bigger. Instead of creating resolutions for your new year, create dreams for your new life.
Dreams. Remember those?
Dreams were those exciting things you used to imagine as a child, that now seem so difficult to visualize as a grownup. Why is that? What happened that made you stop dreaming? Life happened. You got busy raising kids, building a career, managing a household — and trying to juggle it all without losing your mind.
Not to mention that somewhere in the middle of the madness, you lost faith in dreaming. Your dreams may have been torn to shreds by all the non-dreamers, judged by others as “unrealistic” or just plain silly, or simply forgotten altogether. After all the dream disappointments, you wonder if dreams can even come true for you. I am here to remind you that your dreams matter — and you matter.
If there is one episode of this podcast that I want you to fully grasp the most, it’s this one. This is where the magic happens. This is where you start to make that shift into a new life and a new you.
Before I give you the steps to make your dreams come true, let’s first define dreams and the purpose of dreaming. A dream is a strongly desired goal, a vision, a creation of the imagination. The purpose of dreaming is to create your reality and your life. Dreaming is creating — no matter the size of the dream.
A dream is made up of thoughts, images, and emotions, all of which are conceived in that beautiful mind of yours. Thoughts become things, so whatever is created in your mind is created in your life. As long as you are breathing, you are thinking —and therefore, you are creating. Whether you are conscious of your thoughts or not, those thoughts are manifesting your future. That being said, make the choice to think big thoughts, dream big dreams, and create a big life. Ready? Let’s do it!
1. Envision your dream
Tell me, what do you want? In order to envision your dream, you must know what you want. Stop and think for a moment of all areas in your life — family, friends, finances, health, career, love, leisure, and personal growth. Choose one area in your life that you would like to focus on the most. Just one. It’s usually the first one that pops into your mind. It’s the one area in your life that needs the most attention and where a dream is waiting to be born.
What is your one dream in that one area of your life? Do you wish to get out of debt and gain financial freedom? Find the love of your life? Resign from your job and start your own business? Lose weight and improve your health? Take a few months off and travel the world? Make sure you hush the heckler in your head and give yourself permission to dream whatever you want. It’s your dream and it’s your life.
Even though you are only choosing one dream, you will find that other dreams will spontaneously come true. There is a fascinating domino effect that occurs when one dream is realized, other dreams will follow. Score!
Do you have your one dream in mind? Great! Now you need to declare your dream to the universe and make it official, and the best way to do that is to write it down. Grab a pen and paper and write out your dream in detail. And I mean detail! If you have a wishy-washy dream, you will get wishy-washy results. If you have a crystal-clear dream, you will get crystal-clear results. Simple as that. The more distinct and detailed your vision, the easier it will unfold for you.
For example, if your dream is to start your own business, then describe your products and services, your customers, and your ideal day in your new business. If your dream is to find a loving partner in life, then describe this amazing person, your beautiful relationship, and how you bring joy to one another. Don’t worry about how you will make this dream come true, just write freely about what you want — uncensored and unlimited. Have fun with your dream!
I encourage you to write so much that you run out of ink and need to get up and grab a new pen. Let it flow! Become fully immersed in your dream like your life depends on it. Because it does. When you make the dream a reality in your mind, you make the dream a reality in your life.
2. Feel your dream
As I mentioned previously, dreams are made up of thoughts, images, and emotions. So far, you have the image of what you want and your thoughts to support that image. Now you need the emotion to put your dream in motion! E-Motion is Energy in Motion. Emotion is the energy that drives those thoughts and images to manifest in your life.
Essentially, you have to FEEL your dream. Visualize your dream in such detail that it’s as if you’re actually living it. How will you feel on the day you open the doors to your new business? How will you feel when you’re curled up on the couch watching a movie with your new partner? Close your eyes, tap into your heart, and feel the emotions arise as you live in your new dream. Again, give yourself permission to dream, to see the dream in your mind’s eye, and to feel the joy of your dream.
3. Reverse-engineer your dream
You have your beautiful dream in mind, you’re feeling all warm and fuzzy inside, and now it’s time to make a move! You have the what, now you need the how. Dreams don’t just happen; you have to make them happen. It would be great if you could think and feel your way to a dream, but it requires some effort on your part. You must take action to fulfill your dreams.
Imagine you are sitting at point A and your dream is sitting far away at point Z. What needs to happen to get you from point A to point Z? While you have your pen in hand, write about what you need to do to make your dream come true. Your dreams might require you to improve your daily habits, change your relationships, save some money, move across the country, acquire new skills, etc.
As you look at your long To Do list, try your best to not feel overwhelmed. Remember the importance of your E-Motions. You certainly don’t want to hijack your happy dream with feelings of stress and overwhelm. Just take one step at a time, and little by little, step by step, you will get there.
Your dream will require you to make some tough decisions and put in a little blood, sweat and tears. Is it worth it? Heck yes, it is! Someday you will be happily at point Z, feeling so much gratitude for all that you have manifested in your life.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Believe in your dream, embody your dream, and become your dream.
Let’s review The Nuggets of Midlife Wisdom from today’s show:
- Dreams are where the magic happens. This is where you start to make that shift into a new life and a new you.
- A dream is made up of thoughts, images, and emotions, all of which are conceived in that beautiful mind of yours. Thoughts become things, so whatever is created in your mind is created in your life.
- The first step to making your dreams come true is to ENVISION YOUR DREAM. Choose one area in your life that you would like to focus on the most and write your crystal-clear dream on paper.
- When you make the dream a reality in your mind, you make the dream a reality in your life.
- The second step is to FEEL YOUR DREAM. Visualize your dream in such detail that it’s as if you’re actually living it.
- The third step is to Reverse-engineer your dream. What needs to happen to get you from point A to point Z?
- Dreams don’t just happen; you have to make them happen.
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I hope this episode inspired you to dream again, to dream big, and to make the rest of your life the best of your life! You got this!
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