Liene Urseina will share her powerful mind reprogramming method

Wendy Valentine: Hello, everyone. Welcome back to another inspiring episode of the Midlife Makeover show. Today we have a truly amazing guest with us, Leanna. Well, man, I hope I don’t butcher your last name: Uresina. She is a master of the subconscious mind and the brilliant entrepreneur behind the highly acclaimed seven figure blueprint with over 15,000 people coached in a 15 minutes formula to solve any problem. Oh, please. Thank you. Liene is here to help us enhance our health, wealth, and relationships. She’s a certified hypnotherapist, bestselling author, and an accomplished public speaker with a remarkable track record, including building two seven figure businesses in Latvia. Liana’s mission is to impact and empower, 1 million lives. And today, she’ll share her powerful mind reprogramming method. If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t manifest your desires, well, listen up. Leanna will explain how limiting beliefs and childhood programs hold us back and how we can change our subconscious mind to attract success. Get ready for a transformative conversation that will change the way you think about manifestation.

Leah says she is all about making dreams come true

Let’s give a warm welcome to Leah.

Liene Uresina: Here I am.

Wendy Valentine: Isn’t it crazy? You’re in Latvia and I’m in Portugal.

Liene Uresina: Absolutely. I mean, Europe. And I’m, you know, american in the Europe. It’s something very special.

Wendy Valentine: That’s, you know what? honestly, that’s one really good thing that came out of COVID is being able to do stuff like this.

Liene Uresina: Not everybody is seeking for this, but I really honor you that you are living in Europe. I know so many Americans, they’re like, nope, not going out.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, no. Yes. I have learned so much just from living here. And I must say, speaking of manifestation, this was one of my dreams.

Wendy Valentine: I was like, I’m gonna make this happen. So I am all about making dreams come true. And honestly, sometimes I feel like people forget to dream. Like, it’s especially like you get to midlife and you kind of forget to that you can dream and you can make dreams come true. It’s magical.

Liene Uresina: Maybe we can even speak about it, right? Because, you know, I know that many people, they are setting the dreams based on their existing situation. So let’s say, I don’t know, maybe somebody has been dreaming about the yacht. And if you are now struggling with the money, it’s very hard to believe that you can get out from existing situation and have something that is out of your reach. Right? And bless the, programming that we have from the society, from the parents, from the schools and everything else, and we shrink our goals into our income.

Wendy Valentine: Very well said. Yeah, it’s so true.

Liene Uresina: And I’m always about why I speak so much about clearing your limiting beliefs, your busy thoughts, is because otherwise you are making the decisions or building your life from the place where you are at.

Wendy Valentine: Yep. So how do you get from where you’re at to where you want to be?

Liene Uresina: So, you know, it’s a, journey in the first place. And you know, I believe like there is no such a thing as one formula. But what I believe in is that my mantra that I’m always saying, right, I have a huge goals, right. And dreams. And I’m always saying I’m doing whatever it takes and I’m gonna share what I’m doing as well. But I’m always saying, I don’t know how, I don’t know when, but I know that I gonna get what I want, I gonna get to the point. And at the end of the day, it’s not about what do you get, but who you become. And I know it sounds like a cliche, a lot of people say this, but this is really the way I see it. I came to this world to become a better person, to upgrade myself, you know, to evolve my soul and serve to the people so that I can, you know, leave the legacy behind myself. And I can only do it as more I gonna grow, as more I gonna become best version, the best version of myself, as more I can help people. It’s all about that for me. It used to be where I was just so attached to the result. Maybe, probably you are also, you know, very impatient.

Wendy Valentine: Why?

Liene Uresina: It’s not happening. I want it to happen. You know, it’s not fair. And I’m doing everything now. I’ve learned to let go.

Wendy Valentine: Yes. Yeah. To detach. Right.

Liene Uresina: Absolutely. To surrender.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. It’s this nice, like, it’s hard to explain. Maybe you can probably explain it better, but it’s this kind of like happy medium of you. Kind of like putting your dreams out there in the universe and at the same time you’re stepping back away from them and letting them unfold. And it’s a hard kind of. I think for me in the beginning that was challenging for me to just go, okay, this is what I want, but okay, I just have to relax into it. Right.

Liene Uresina: Wendy, don’t get me wrong, because a lot of people, they mix manifestation with sitting and waiting.

Wendy Valentine: M. Yeah.

Liene Uresina: What I’m doing every single day when I wake up, I have my self reprogramming journal, right? And I always write my goals every single day. Why? Because in our daily life we are super busy with instagram, with the children, with a partner, with a job, with the clients and everything else. It’s so easy to lose the track of what you are willing to achieve. What do you want to get? And when you are all the time into doo doo mode. Anyway, at the end of the day, whatever focus goes, energy flows and this is what comes into your life. So I’m kind of writing it and I’m looking, what can I do today so that I achieve my goal?

Wendy Valentine: Yes.

Liene Uresina: What is the action that I can take so that I can come closer to my goal?

Wendy Valentine: Right.

Liene Uresina: And this reminds me always, like sometimes, you know, things just unfold, but at the end of the day, I believe it’s like a co creation with the universe. 50% I need to do my thing.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: Instead of just waiting when something is going to happen and 50% universe is providing for me. And then there is another moment, whether I going to jump on this train.

Wendy Valentine: Yes. Yeah.

Liene Uresina: It’s going to just pass by.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. Yeah. I’m thinking back, my own kind of breakdown to breakthrough story. And I did start after my big breakdown in my mid forties. I started working on my limiting beliefs and some of my doubts and my fears and, and yes, that took a long time. and then as I had my dream in mind, I did have that moment where I was like, wait, Wendy, this dream is just not going to happen. Like me taking off in an rv across the country, it’s not just going to happen.

Reprogramming the mind can help you attract the right partner

I have to make it happen. And that’s when it kind of going back to what you were saying, that was like putting that action towards my dream. Like I, it’s like, all right, let’s put this sucker into overdrive. Right. But I do think, at least for me, with my experience, I did have to kind of work on a lot of my internal world to make this external world like really come to fruition.

Liene Uresina: Mm.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: You’re saying then you worked on yourself, right?

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, yeah.

Liene Uresina: To change and get what you want.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: And I really like the saying of Michael Beckford where he’s saying, you don’t get what you want, but you get who you are.

Wendy Valentine: Yes. Yep.

Liene Uresina: And this makes me always to think about how can I become the person who is really at the vibration of what I want to get. And let’s just take such a simple thing like money or relationship. You can pick one. Which one?

Wendy Valentine: Let’s pick, let’s pick relationships.

Liene Uresina: Okay. Let’s pick a relationship. And I know so many women, they’re like, I want this prince, I want this guy, and I want this. And they’re like, so, you know, with a very high standards. And I’m asking them. So let’s imagine you would meet this guy, this, like, the best, you know, like from sex in the city, this big, right?

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: And, so he comes. My first question is, do you believe you are worthy of this man? Because most of women, they will freak out, right? Like, is it, is it really possible if they don’t work on their self worth? Right.

Wendy Valentine: Yes.

Liene Uresina: Themselves on their identity. And then the second thing, will this guy want to spend his life with you? If you are complaining constantly and you don’t know how to build real relationship, how to honor man, how to motivate him, how to inspire him, then, he’s like, why? I need another one who will be complaining that I, you know, my socks. He’s like, I don’t want to get into this because sustaining this relationship is even more harder than meeting the person of your dreams is. Where I’m going.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, yeah.

Liene Uresina: It’s the mastery of all of it. And I say, really? Ask yourself. You can make the list and, ah, ask yourself, okay, this is the person I want. And then who do I need to become for me to attract this mandev?

Wendy Valentine: Mm I totally agree. And I think also you have to step into the shoes of that woman now. Like, for me, I started to think, like, how would I, how would I walk into a room? What would I eat every day? How would I behave? What would my habits be like? I almost. It was like an act as if type of thing. Like, I’m gonna start acting as if I’m that woman now. Not wait for her to show up and then start my life, but step into that woman now and then. I mean, it’s amazing how, which we can talk more about this, but in programming your mind, like, you are literally training your mind to become this new woman, which is fascinating.

Liene Uresina: Absolutely. And, you see, that’s why I believe so much into reprogramming the mind, because, look, like, how do we choose even the partner based on our experience in the past? Firstly, what we have seen in our families, the way my mom had the relationship with my father, and all that I was seeing was she was running all the household, right. She was taking care of everything financially, very controlling. Like, my father wouldn’t make a move without her saying what to do, which is, you know, when you grow in this environment. And my father wasn’t the most inspiring man, you know, like a strong and just leading family. So all what I could see is this controlling woman. And I made the decision as a kid because we do what’s familiar to us. So I was thinking this is the only way. Even though I don’t think this is the only way. But the behavior, my thinking, my behavior patterns are exactly where I was trying to control everything, to take the lead. And guess what’s happening when woman is taking the lead in the relationship. Can’t be two masculine energies.

Wendy Valentine: Yes.

Liene Uresina: One is becoming, you know, it’s like you want to do then do it.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: So then we are wondering why men are starting to make less money. Right. Because if you take the lead and you are with your testerones, you know, building the kingdom, then it’s not gonna work in the long run.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, that was that was another big pivotal moment for me as well. Learning more about the masculine and feminine energies. And having been a single mom for so many years I had to use a lot of that masculine energy. Like masculine energy can be good, right? It can help push you up onto the stage or ever, right. But then you have to bring in that feminine energy and that’s like, that’s that creativity that can like really flow into your life.

Looking back in your life can help propel you forward in life

I feel, feel and you know, one thing I wanted to point out to made me think of Steve Jobs quote about you can’t connect the dots going forward, you can only connect the dots going backwards. And like talking about like going back into childhood and your teen years and, and in your twenties and thirties and the relationships or whatever, financial, like your financial choices and health choices, all of those things, like as you go back into your life and you connect those dots and it brings you to where you’re at now, it’s like, oh, that’s why I ended up in that relationship. That’s why I decided to invest in that business that failed or whatever, or that succeeded, you know, positive and negative. But it’s it’s good to look back in your past because it can help you to kind of readjust and reset and regroup and in order to propel you going forward in life.

Liene Uresina: I completely agree with you. And it makes me even more sad because right now I was for two weeks at Mindvalley University with Vishen Lakyani who is like creating this beautiful space for the people to come together. And what was very interesting, one of the speakers asked the question, she said, okay, raise your hand. Who is single and, like, 70% of the room. No, she said single. Or have struggles in the relationship, 70 or 80% of the room raise their hands. And I was, you know, at that moment, I was thinking how sad it is that people are. You know, we are focusing so much on the achievement, on the making money, building empire, you know, like, conquering the world. But the basic thing that is gonna make you really fulfilled, for real, is your relationship. It’s not working there.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, it’s.

Liene Uresina: It’s not going through. So for me, that was a wake up call. And, for me, that was a good, good. Like, I could then analyze myself in the past, because I was like, I’m with my husband 18 years, Wendy. And I know we are not speaking about manifestation, but at the same time, this is the manifestation.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, yeah. I mean, everything is right. Yeah.

Liene Uresina: You know, like, I was, me and my husband, we were like, living like a cats and dogs, all that we had. We were, just speaking about the kids, how to, you know, take kids to some training and practices. Then what are the groceries we need to buy? And we lost all this beautiful intimacy and really, the meaning of the relationship. And then we were in the same business. And, I was. I still don’t understand how I was so patient for 15 years where we were suffering. You know, I was thinking, why do I love this man? But, you know, it’s not working out.

Wendy Valentine: Tell me more about your breakdown. Breakthrough story, if you will. Like, years ago, I had read a little bit on your about page, and, unfortunately, you had experienced a miscarriage, and just cause you’re, like, working, working. So take us back there, if you don’t mind sharing.

Liene Uresina: So 2009, me and my husband, we were living abroad, so we decided to come back to my home country, right? And we started our first business, like, together. And I was so 2009, I don’t know, 24, 25 years old, so. And I was without the experience in business, without experience, of course, in the food industry. And, we had €17,000 in our pockets. 2009 was one of the biggest crisis, economical crisis in the world. I know the shops were closing, people were emigrating, packing, moving, living. I remember myself walking down the streets and the shops were empty. So we decided to start our business. And we found this beautiful place in the old town of Riga. Two floors, 400 m², like, for the fast food, and €17,000 in the packet. It was like a crazy, crazy dream. And just because the owner, he was american, actually in Latvia, owning a lot of properties. He saw our passion and the way, you know, we built the idea of what we want to build. He believed in us and he gave the price. It was like four times cheaper than the previous tenders were paying.

Wendy Valentine: Wow.

Liene Uresina: This much he was believing in us, and of course we had the partners, so. And by the way, this is something I also was manifesting, because while I wasn’t, living in my country, I was visualizing how I have the cafe and there are lines and the people are coming and then they come to me and then they say, your food is amazing. And long story short, within a few years, we grew to eight restaurant business selling franchises abroad. And, we had the production where we were producing the products. People from Germany, people from Sweden, they were coming to see our shop because everybody was talking about something that we created at that time was super unique, right? The fast food, everything was cleaned, organized, you know, like super, delicious food. Like it was, the service was like at the restaurant, right? And we were even in the competition with McDonald’s and we won McDonald’s.

Wendy Valentine: Wow, that’s, that’s huge.

Liene Uresina: But the problem was, because I was just trying to earn love through this process. I was thinking, if I gonna be successful, people gonna love me and I get the recognition and, you know, I had all these beautiful clothes and the trips and everything, you know, I always dreamed of, but I was miserable inside. I was really, I can say when they, like, I woke up some mornings, I didn’t want to get out of the bed. And what do we do? We put the lipstick on nice clothes, and we pretend like nothing is happening. And, you know, everybody, why should I complain? I have everything that society is saying is important for you. Nice car, house, you know, the tree flows and you’re like, you inside, you feel this inner voice. Something is not working, you know, no, it’s not good. But the outer world and the mind is saying, no, you should stop complaining. Right?

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: You know, there is a saying sometimes, you know, God is firstly it’s whispering, then it’s knocking, and then it’s kicking out the door.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: For me, it was three years later when we had huge problems in business, right? We like, we had like big, big problems in the business. And, you know, I am like, I was thinking I’m dying, right? Because I was literally identifying myself with that business. It was my life, it was my baby. It was something that I built. And then there was one moment when I almost lost this business. in the next day of all these challenges, I saw myself bleeding, and I went to the hospital, and they said that I was pregnant. So I lost the baby. So I lost almost my business. I lost almost my baby. And that’s when all my journeys started. Wherever I realized I don’t want to be just beautiful from the outside. I want to be beautiful from the inside. I want to not only achieve, but I want to serve to people and, you know, but I guess Wendy differently.

Liena has overcome many low points in her life through coaching

I wouldn’t understand. God knew my character, so he’s like, I gonna give this girl, like, a hard lesson so that really start changing something in her life. So. And now I am, you know, living a beautiful life. I have a wonderful family with the two kids. I left the business, our restaurant business, because also it was affecting a lot our relationship with the husband. And I built my coaching, my personal development company in my country, where I’m serving the people, changing people’s lives, and living my best life, really working life, not, as much as I was doing before with the different values.

Wendy Valentine: Wow. I say this a lot on the show, but it’s interesting how we become our own guinea pigs. And whatever we have experienced, whatever we learn from, hopefully, is what we end up teaching. And the more that we teach, the more that we learn. And that’s what’s so cool, though. It’s like, we all learn from each other’s stories, from our breakdowns to our breakthroughs, and it gives you hope. Like, I hear your story, and it’s like, okay, I can make a comeback. Like, whoever’s listening, like, yes, you can make a, comeback. You can do whatever it is that you want to do. There’s no. There are no limitations. And I think. And it’s so easy to say that I get it, because even during my darkest times, like dark night of the soul, I’d sit there and read, you know, self help books and listen to podcasts, and I was just like, oh. I was almost, like, nauseated with all the self help motivational talk, and I was like, oh, enough. Like, it just. It’s not until you can fully grasp that and feel it in your heart and your soul. And sometimes it takes. Yes. God, universe, like, knocking you down on the floor to say, all right, that’s enough. Like, wake up. Like, yeah.

Liene Uresina: And I think in these hard times, very important to remember that life is never happening to you. It’s happening for you.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: And before, I wouldn’t understand this, but, trust me, you know, Wendy, now I have had so many low moments in my life, like, when the life hits me then it’s like, hits me really, really hard.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: And, but I know that always I’m evolving after those moments. And this is also a good point for me to understand that when I overcome it, firstly, I can serve and help people with my teachings. And secondly, it’s more easy to understand the people who are suffering with the same problem because I have created now approximately 15 programs. Right. And through my 15 programs now, at this point, it’s like around 20,000 people have been going through. Right. But when the people were coming to me and when I had the bad relationship period with my husband and they said, liena, can you please teach, something about the relationship? I knew how it works technically, but I couldn’t do it because I respect people so much. I need to walk my talk. I said, sorry, guys, this is not the only area that I’m good at. I can teach you, but it’s not going to be authentic. It’s going to be from the book. And this is something that I cannot, it’s against my values. I can only come and teach you something that I have achieved myself.

Wendy Valentine: Wow. I love it, I love it, I love it, I love it.

Wendy is writing a book called The Seven. When is the book one?

so what is it called? The seven. What you call the blueprint.

Liene Uresina: The blueprint of manifestation. I know you want to know that. Everything.

Wendy Valentine: Yes.

Liene Uresina: Because Wendy’s writing the book, right?

Wendy Valentine: Yes, I am. Ah, yeah. Almost done, almost done.

Liene Uresina: When is the book one? What’s the,

Wendy Valentine: it should be out pre order. Will start probably February or March 2025. So it’s such a. I didn’t realize in a book, like, there’s so much that goes on behind the scenes, like, and just to get that sucker onto the bookshelf, there’s a lot. So.

Liene Uresina: Yeah, absolutely. Actually, I was selling my book, this one, which is in my language. Right. so I was selling it even when I didn’t have the name and I didn’t have the COVID And, hundred people bought the book without the name and cover.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, that is so awesome.

So regarding the manifestation, let’s just really understand what is really is

Liene Uresina: So regarding the manifestation, let’s just really understand what is really is and how to manifest anything you want. So I know we started to speak about this misconception that people think that you are just sitting and waiting and nothing is happening. for me, working on the goal doesn’t mean, doesn’t mean just going and working hard. For me, it’s working hard on myself.

Wendy Valentine: Right.

Liene Uresina: so first step is always to understand what do I really want. Not what my mother wants for me, not what society wants for me. Not what, you know, my friend has, but something. What do I really want? Like, what is my heart’s desire? When I think about it, I know it’s m my thing. Because trust me, Wendy, seeing so many people in my programs, they really want something that mother wants for them. Or to prove to my mom, you know, I’m capable, or to my partner that I am capable of having something meaningful or I’m successful. But this is never gonna bring you fulfillment. Never. And then when you understand, right, it’s like, what is in between me and what I want? What is the gap? the question you asked. And usually it’s limiting beliefs. So now if I know, let’s say I want to make a million dollars, right? Or monthly million, whatever, then I’m looking. I want this, but I can’t have it because. So what, after you’re. Because I’m too old. It’s, Too hard. I, know I’m not so worthy. I don’t know how. And all these things that you’re gonna point out is gonna be your reminder, your exact reason why you don’t have it yet.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, that’s the main block. Really?

Liene Uresina: Absolutely. Main blocks. Usually it’s not. There are, so many of them. So then you need to work on your limiting beliefs and reprogram your mind so that you can start think differently. Because what we need to see and understand that everything is vibration. Do you believe in energy, right?

Wendy Valentine: Oh, yes. Yeah.

Liene Uresina: Universe. And everything is vibration. So it’s like I would call you wendy. You have your phone number, and this is at the certain vibration, if I dial a wrong number, I cannot reach you.

Liene Uresina: So in order for you to achieve what you want, you need to dial your number that is at the frequency of what you want. Yes, there is the frequency of your energy. So then you need to upgrade your identity and to become the version of who really believes that you can have it.

Wendy Valentine: Mm

Liene Uresina: Right. This. The work on yourself work. This. This is so, so important. Like, you cannot get this fantastic guy. If your self worth is low and you keep saying, I’m fat, I’m ugly, you know, who will choose me? How do you plan to attract this frequency? Men. If you are at this level and m not believing in yourself and judging yourself and treating yourself so bad and criticizing. And I have this beautiful picture where you can see the lion in the mirror, and the kitten is looking to the mirror, and the kitten is saying, you know, and then the question is, what do you see in the mirror or the kitten, do you see this cat?

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: And this will, this will really so much impact your ability even to take action.

Liene Uresina: Go out there to speak with the people, to express yourself.

Wendy Valentine: Yep. Yeah. I think, that’s the winner right there is stepping into the woman that you want to become. And meditation for me, Washington, huge in reprogramming my, my crazy brain that for decades of like, limiting beliefs and doubts that like, got stuck in there. And it takes time, right, to, to reprogram those neural pathways. But it’s definitely possible, like right through neuroplasticity neuroscience, it literally can be done.

Liene Uresina: So I have recorded actually 41 meditations based on the hypnosis theory. Because I don’t know if you know this, research, but if you go to the psychotherapist with a problem, right. With a challenge, you need 600 sessions in order for you to get 26% of the results you are looking for. Wow, 600 with a hypnosis, with hypnotherapy. It is six sessions in order for you to get 93% of the result.

Wendy Valentine: I’ll choose option B. Yeah.

Liene Uresina: Because what’s happening, it’s not that I’m against the psychotherapy, it’s not like they’re helping a lot. But if you’re working on some goal, I don’t know, wendy, about you, but I don’t like to go in the past and remember what mommy didn’t do to me, what my father, because where the focus goes, the energy flows. And I have actually experienced when I was going to a, ah, psychotherapist and I went like for six, seven years. And I asked him one question. I said, how long I going to need to come to you? How long? you know what he answered? He said, forever. and I was like, this is not working for me.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: Like, I don’t have, like, I want my result now. And I don’t know how, but I said, okay, I need to stop this because I want to focus on the future.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: And, this is what I started to do. I was working on the limiting beliefs, right? And I was thinking, okay, so what I want what I need to do. And I started to reprogram my mind. If you would see me like 15 years ago or 20 years ago, I was overweight, insecure, you know, I was always like, even eating when I was stressed because that was the way I was hiding from the challenges and programs and problems. And I was really unhappy and insecure woman. Now I have created this woman.

Lena says limiting beliefs can become limiting beliefs when we’re young

You know, people look, she’s so successful. She’s driving the luxury car. Like behind there is a lake, like right where we live.

Wendy Valentine: How pretty nice.

Liene Uresina: It’s a very beautiful place and the way I dress. But actually, it’s not about the things. It’s about the person I have become. And you know, one jail that we don’t know is our mind when we are in the silence. How are you talking to yourself? What are you thinking about? This is the biggest jail. The jail is not Covid, the jail is not actual jail, but what’s happening in your mind. And I think that’s why it’s so important to work on your self, talk on your beliefs the way you see yourself. Because I know it was nightmare for me before. Didn’t like that Liena. I was, you know, I would make smallest mistake, I would beat up myself, I would compare myself constantly with someone else and looking how successful they are and how bad I am. But now I’m free. You know, I’m just. I have the tools. I am free. I am different person. And guess what? I’m making more money than I have ever made. I’m attracted to people because they want to always be with me. Like I was at this Mindvalley university. They’re just. Lena, let’s go.

Wendy Valentine: Lunch.

Liene Uresina: Liana, let’s just sit and talk. Because they like the people who are happy people, free people.

Wendy Valentine: And isn’t that interesting, though? And here who you are now compared to who you were before and you’re actually, you’re not working. Not to say that you’re not working hard, but you’re. It’s like the law of least effort, right? Like you’re, you’re putting in the effort, effort to. To become this new woman, but you’re not having to slave away every single day to try to make it all happen.

Liene Uresina: Yeah. And this is the limiting belief I need to work really hard in order for me to get what I want.

Wendy Valentine: Right. Exactly. Yeah.

Liene Uresina: I don’t know. How about you? But I. I didn’t see my mom until 09:00 evening in the evening. Like, we needed to make. She needed to make money for the food, you know, she was constantly borrowing because she couldn’t handle this financial pressure. You know, while children were playing outside, I was sitting and waiting. My mommy, I was missing her so much, right? And all what I could see was if you want to make money, then you work really hard. And guess what I was doing in my first. Isn’t that interesting?

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. Like our minds are like little. Our brains are like little sponges when we’re kids and we absorb everything that’s going on around us and their, our parents limiting beliefs can become our limiting beliefs and.

Liene Uresina: Yeah, they can. But they usually become old.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, they usually do.

Liene Uresina: Yeah, that’s mine.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, that’s mine. Yeah. I believe this. I don’t know why, but it’s. And we, and we think we believe that it is truth.

Liene Uresina: Exactly.

Wendy Valentine: And until you, till you like, wake up one day, whenever that is, and you go, is this true? Do I really believe that? Do I really believe that I have to work my a** off every single day in order to be happy and successful? No.

Liene Uresina: You know, wendy, it’s, it’s actually really. I think we are living in a beautiful time right now.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: Before, if we look, 20 years ago, people didn’t know what is limiting belief, right. How can I change it? Like, some of the very, very successful people, it was like silently in the group, they were sharing, right? How to change, how to improve, think and grow rich. All these self help books. But now we are living in the time. There are million tools. Eft tapping, hypnotherapy, NLP practices, all practices. Now you have so many ways to change it. And I think it’s, like, it’s. If you are ignorant with your life right now and you are not doing anything.

Also, one of the points is take the responsibility for your life

Liene Uresina: Also, one of the points is take the responsibility for your life. Because if you don’t like what you have and you keep b* about the government, about your husband, about this and that, and dude, it’s like, wake up. You have created your life. And, you know, there is even the research done. When you say people, you need to take responsibility, for your life. You lose 14% of your audience. So we just lost 14% of your audience. Shoot. Come back, come back, come back. Because people.

Wendy Valentine: No, you’re so right, though. We, we do have to take responsibility with where we’re at and where we’re going. We are a work in progress. And it’s a. That’s the thing. Like, as much as I have done in my own life, with personal development constantly, like, working on these, you know, doubts and limiting beliefs, it’s not like you just arrive and you’re good to go. There’s, there’s new ones that can sink in unless you’re mindful and conscious of it. Like, they will stay, they will get stuck in there too. So you have to be like, okay, wait a minute. All right, let’s reset. Regroup. Is this who I am? Who is. And I think it’s interesting because like, we go through seasons in life and we have to be, mindful of those seasons that we flow through and to kind of gear up for that next season and the next. Because we change, right? Like, I’m not the same woman that I was in my twenties. I had different desires, I had different dreams back then, and it’s going to be different from when I’m in my sixties and my seventies. So we have to like, really look at where we’re at now, where we want to be, no matter how small or big the dream is.

Liene Uresina: And I think it’s also important what I mentioned at the very beginning. Life gets so busy. With responsibilities and like, it’s never been busier than right now. You have constantly reminder, you need to look instagram, you need to buy this. You know, there is this, there is billboard and like, you know, whoa, whoa, whoa, please. You know, I don’t know which direction to go. So it’s always about the focus and the, state of mind.

Wendy Valentine: Yes.

Liene Uresina: What I’m doing through meditations, you know, I have created this method where you, in the specific meditation, you are keeping the focus on what you want. And I started to speak about psychotherapy. There. You are speaking consciously, like, I don’t like my husband and, you know, we are in a bad relationship and my mom wasn’t treating me well. And now when you come in the meditation, in the hypnosis, then you are actually seeing, oh my gosh, I remember that moment when my father was abusive to my mom, but when he was abusing my mom or he did something I’m just creating. Right. And then now you are coming up. That’s the reason why I don’t trust men.

Wendy Valentine: Yep.

Liene Uresina: But consciously, if you speak with a, you know, it’s really when these type of things come up. But when you are in that state, when you release your existing life, like, I need to do this, this, this life is hard, you know, I’m fat, I need to buy the groceries and I. Then you can go into yourself and look into your subconscious mind. Okay, now I see that. And now I can reprogram my mind so that I can start to trust men because there are so many beautiful and wonderful men out there and the same thing around money. And then you remember, you know, like if I go back, I remember the moment when my mom was standing and crying and counting the pennies because she didn’t have enough money. And when you have unhealthy relationship with money, you will be like, oh, okay. Money is causing the problems. My mom was all the time fighting with the father around money. He didn’t work enough. And no money is generating problems. I better don’t have it. And you’re wondering why you push it away, why it’s not coming, why you always lose it.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. And I think too, like, the same way that you can program your mind and your body, and to be in a negative state, you can program it to be in a positive state. Like, I kind of like for me, like, I thought, oh, my God, I’ve been brainwashing myself to think that I’m not worthy or I’m not good enough or I’m not smart enough, et cetera, et cetera. I was like, I can do the opposite. It’s like, really, it’s, once you realize that, that you have that control, it’s very empowering. Like, wait a minute, I have control over me. I’m the one that controls these thoughts and these beliefs and my emotions and my feelings, everything. I control that, not anybody else. And I think once you, like, realize that, like, wait a minute, I can do what I want to do, not what.

Liene Uresina: You are so smart. Because this is exactly how it starts. Why can’t we brainwash our brain with something positive?

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, I know.

Liene Uresina: Why do we focus on the negativity again? Because it’s coming from the programming. Right. And I don’t know, how about maybe in America it was different, but in my Soviet Union countries, they were thinking, if they’re gonna complement you, then you will become, you know, like, oh, snooting. Yes. And better. They were motivating through negative comments because you don’t become lazy. So they were kind of motivating you through negativity. I remember I had a client of mine, very successful man, and he said, so I’m going into the room with my. To my daughter, and I’m just all the time judging her. You’re so, you know why you don’t ring and I compare with others? And I said, how is that working for you? He said, it’s not working. Nothing changes. I said, of course, because we are not living in the past anymore. Your mom, or your dad was treating you that way, and that’s how he did. He was doing exactly how his father was speaking to him. He was speaking to his daughter. And, you know, like, we are taking the generational beliefs and we are planting in our kids. If you don’t want to do it for yourself, yeah, it’s for your kids.

Wendy Valentine: Exactly.

Wendy says today is international self care day

And I think about that, man. I mean, that’s probably how he was speaking to himself, if he was speaking to. Right. To his child that way.

Liene Uresina: But what is also interesting that we, the people who have, you know, this, this tendency, the high achievers, actually.

Liene Uresina: They achieve a lot because they want to prove everybody how good I am. They’re so self esteem and self love is so low. So what they do, they think if I gonna have the achievements out there, I just bought this cool car, everything is gonna change.

Liene Uresina: It’s not working that way. Like, you can never be happy. I know so many people who are miserable. I don’t know, Wendy. I don’t want to be sitting on the yacht with the billions in my bank account without my family, children hating me and just enjoying money. I am somebody who will always say, you know, like, if you’re going to really want to be happy, money is very important. I like luxury as well. Good car and, you know, all the opportunities. But I cannot enjoy my material, material world if I cannot have a beautiful relationship with my spouse and my kids.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, you’re exactly right. Yeah. And it. Sometimes it takes a lot of trial and error in life to get to that point of that realization.

Liene Uresina: Sometimes. Always.

Wendy Valentine: Yes. You know, I think today is international self care Day. I think there’s like a holiday for everything, which I think self care day should be every day. But to me, all of this that we’re talking about, that’s self care. It’s. Yes, we could say it’s a nice warm bath and a cup of tea. Right? But self care is caring for yourself. It’s caring for your thoughts and your emotions and your behaviors and your actions. And that is, like, where it all starts. That is what creates a beautiful person and a beautiful life.

Liene Uresina: Exactly. And you, like, this is the point as well, tend to give everybody else except ourselves. Like, I start my day, and nobody can take away my morning hours, even my husband or my friends. Usually they are like they used to say, not anymore. We would go travel somewhere. They were like, oh, gosh. Go get some sleep. Better sleep, you know, you don’t need always to do your rituals. I said, no. This is exactly how I showed myself that I care about myself. When I wake up, when I meditate, when I do some sports, I run every single day. One day, every day, I run for 45 minutes. Because God forbid, if I don’t do this, then you better get away from me, m. Because that’s where I also generating. Right. It’s my, And that’s when I generating the ideas, I meditate to calm my mind. I write down, you know, I do some breath work and then I start my day. And then I have something to give to my husband, to my kids, to my clients. Now I’m full of myself and I have showed that I love myself. For me going to manicure, pedicure and hairdresser, this is not self love.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, right.

Liene Uresina: It’s just like something that all we women do. But for me, self care is also when I promise myself that I gonna wake up and do some exercises or run, then I’m doing it because I respect myself. For me, self love is when I don’t eat junk all the time. Because I love my body so much, I will not put the trash in my body. Let’s say I am not using alcohol already for three years. Nothing.

Wendy Valentine: Oh nice. Yeah.

Liene Uresina: You know why? Because I love myself so much. I don’t want to feel crappy in the next day. Even after 1 hour of class. It impacts me. I want to wake up fresh, I want to go run, I want to do everything. And this is self love for me.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. I think that old model of a woman running around taking care of everybody else except for herself. Like that’s out. Like it’s just. And I was, I was like that. I was running around taking care of everybody except for Wendy.

Liene Uresina: That if you’re gonna people please.

Wendy Valentine: Yes.

Liene Uresina: Then they’re gonna say, oh Wendy, you’re so good girl. Well done. It’s like in the school, we are still big adults in the small, tiny, you know, with the small, tiny, this soul who wants to prove, you see how good I am. Can you just praise me? Because we didn’t receive it in the past. Yeah, right. But now we are about to heal and we. Because this is, I call it childish situation and position again, I cannot do it. It’s too difficult. I cannot wake up. This is a kid speaking, right? Kid is always confused. Kid is always saying I cannot do something. An adult is saying if I promise I’m doing, if I promise to my partner or let’s say friend or client something, I’m keeping my promise. And this is another problem, especially with youngsters.

My greatest fear since being a child was being abandoned by others

They promise and they’re very irresponsible.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: Oh yeah. I’m going different direction. We can talk forever.

Wendy Valentine: I know. Exactly. I’m just going to say it wasn’t. I put it in the book, as a matter of fact. But it wasn’t too long ago that I finally made the connection for myself with my greatest fear, my greatest limiting belief, my greatest fear since the child was being abandoned. And so that thread of fear went through my careers, my relationships, financial, everything, right? And, not too long ago, I realized I was like, wait a second. My greatest fear was being abandoned by others, but really I was abandoning me. And then it was like, wait a second. I have got to stop abandoning me. And when I made that connection, it was like, like, forget about it. Like, the world is my oyster. I’m going all out. Like, there was nothing that was going to stop me because I was not going to abandon that little girl anymore. Like, enough. Enough. And all of the. A lot of, A lot of what I created in my mind as a child, which a lot of us do, this, is that we create these like a way to protect ourselves from whatever we’re fearing. So I became really good at people pleasing, being a perfectionist, codependent, like, you name it, I became a master at all of that to protect that little wendy from being abandoned. And now it’s like, wait, I don’t have to be something that I’m not anymore. Someone that I’m not anymore. I don’t have to do any of that stuff anymore because I’m not going to abandon me.

The tendency to be codependent is in your numbers as well

Liene Uresina: When did you burn? What is the date of birth?

Wendy Valentine: 11 27 72.

Liene Uresina: So because I’m a numerologist as well, and I’m always also in my work looking at the numbers. And this is eleven is like a two, which is the tendency is to be codependent and very, you know, attached to the people and attached to someone else. And usually people who have number two in their. I, eleven, this is also. They have challenges with mother. So this is kind of your mission as well, to have a good relationship. But by good, what do I mean is it means that you accept her the way she is. It’s not that you need to become the best friends, but you just see and you know that she did the best she can. Right. And this codependency also is really exactly the people. And eleven, it’s like the leader. Right. And I want to be the best at the same time. I want. I’m kind of want the confirmation from everybody else. So this is in your numbers as well. And again, you come with your karma.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: This lifetime. Exactly. You burn at the date when you have to do whatever you have to do. Next. And what was the months?

Wendy Valentine: November 27. And then.

Liene Uresina: Yeah, so this is November is two and 27. November 7, eight, nine, and number nine is, the person who is esoterical, actually a healer, but person is always, having this imposter syndrome. I’m m not ready yet. There are other people who are better than I am and kind of, you are never ready. And these people cannot acknowledge that they have this healer power, this esoterical abilities. And they always think that success is in some kind of big businesses, serious businesses. And it always feels like they are pushing, but only when they will accept that they have this healing power and they are going in this spiritual world. Then they feel like at home and the things are happening. But the main job is just stop doubting yourself. Do not doubt yourself. You’re very big and powerful creator.

Wendy Valentine: Well, thank you.

Liene Uresina: Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: As is everyone is out there. Right? Like, but that’s what’s so neat though. Like the more that you learn about yourself, you’ll connect those, those dots and then you can use that information to go, okay, let me do something better with this.

Liene Uresina: That’s why I love numerology, which is, my husband always said, millionaires don’t use numerology, billionaires do. Right. Because it’s precisely showing you exactly what you need to do in order for you to get to your goal closer. Otherwise we are like which limiting I believe I need to work on. Right. But there are so many components. There is your, your, your responsibilities with your ancestors, with your roots, with your mom, your grandmother and everything you need to see. Why did you come into this planet? Yeah, what is exactly, why did I come in this planet? And when you see this, then you know, okay, this is what I need to do. This is what I need to focus on. Now I’m living in my minus energy. Let’s say I have number seven. It’s like I have burned in the July. And if I stop or I am too overloaded, right, then I see the consequences. The money stops coming in. Actually, if I push hard in my way, it needs to be easy.

Wendy Valentine: Fascinating. Yes, we’re such interesting creatures. Little balls of energy floating through space, tune the soul. And you’re like such a wealth of knowledge. Oh my gosh.

Liene Uresina: Well, that’s why, and you see, I say I go in, I went into the personal development not because I wanted to help others, I wanted to help myself.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: In the first place, because you can’t help others if you haven’t helped yourself.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Liene Uresina: When I’m like, okay, so this is, and I see that, oh my gosh, this is working. And then I’m sharing.

Wendy Valentine: Yes.

Liene Uresina: I’m, you know, evolving. And then people are like, how is she doing this all? Yeah, it’s actually very easy. You just start to work on yourself.

Wendy Valentine: Exactly. Self care, self love is putting the oxygen mask on yourself first.

Liene Uresina: Yes.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, I love it. Where can we find you?

Liene Uresina: So usually on Instagram, Leonau, resina, Lieneuresna. And also, my website and on my instagram, it’s gonna be like, now we are creating new, gifts for the followers.

It will be connected with the numerology because, like, you cannot imagine

And it will be also connected with the numerology because, like, you cannot imagine how much you can say about the person. Only your date of birth, your months. And it’s like, okay, it’s clear. What do you need to do? What are the actions you need to take? Where is the most amount of money? There’s so many people, they do the wrong thing. So in the numerology, the way I see it, you can right away see where is the most, biggest amount of money. What’s your mission? What are the mistakes you should never make? Because it’s gonna make, you know, challenges in life. So this is something we are preparing.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, I love it. And you have an app too, I noticed.

Liene Uresina: Have an app too. So there you can find some meditations and some free resources, YouTube and, you know, a lot of stuff.

Wendy Valentine: Someday you and I will meet in person.

Liene Uresina: Well, I am, taking your, contact.

Liana says Portugal is better than America. Oh, heck yes. It’s good weather year round

And when I gonna go to Portugal. We were there last here.

Wendy Valentine: Did you come to Madera?

Liene Uresina: No, we didn’t, but mainland. Yeah, we were in mainland, but we were there to go.

Wendy Valentine: Good. It’s good weather year round and beautiful people and good food and.

Liene Uresina: Oh, it’s, yeah, better than America.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, heck yes. Yeah, I love America too, but this is like totally different. Yeah. Goodbye. And there. And it’s a nice slow pace here, which, if you can imagine, that’s good for me.

Liene Uresina: I love slow pace too. That’s why we live in the small suburb. Just, I want to be. I cannot, like, New York is like, whoa, whoa. I know. I can’t take it. M just by looking at those crazy people who are running, like chasing something, I’m like. And then we are. Which manifestation are we talking about? Like, the person is running, I need to pay the bill, you know, and, and it’s, it’s, yeah. Manifestation only works when you are in the right state of mind. I know, I create what’s meant for me will simply find me and I. For the hard working people. It sounds like, Liena, what are you talking about? But trust me, I’ve been chasing like the whole life. And I know that the best result you can get when you are in the most calm and peaceful state of mind, when you can feel and sense what you need to do, you have the right answer. You don’t need to chase. You just. Okay, so by doing this, I can achieve this result. Yeah, you do less and make more.

Wendy Valentine: Ah, I needed that. Like I told you earlier, I was like, this show is just for me. Everyone just gets to benefit and listen.

Liene Uresina: You know, you are such a wonderful person, so.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, thank you so much, Liana.

Liene Uresina: Thank you.

Wendy Valentine: All right, everyone, have a great day.

Liene Uresina: Thank you for having me.