Jamie Stedman is a gifted healer and a certified advanced crystal practitioner

Jamie Stedman: Foreign.

Wendy Valentine: Welcome to the Midlife Makeover show, where transformation is always on the agenda and self discovery is just a crystal away. Today’s guest is someone whose energy you can feel the moment she enters the room, even the Zoom room. Jamie Stedman is a gifted healer, a certified advanced crystal practitioner, and a credentialed minister inspired spiritual counselor. Her spiritual journey began in 2022 during a healing circle where a sound bath cracked her wide open and set her on a soulful path of awakening and service to others. Jamie blends the healing powers of crystals, sound energy work, and meditation to help her clients reconnect with their highest selves and experience true emotional, physical, physical and spiritual transformation. She also happens to be a recent graduate of my Freedom at Midlife program, and she was such a joy to witness her blossom over those few weeks. In today’s episode, we’ll chat about her personal journey into crystal healing, the powerful shifts she’s experienced, and how she’s integrating the wisdom of the freedom program into. Into her life in spiritual work. Whether you’re crystal curious or fully charged, you’re going to love this sparkling conversation. Please welcome Jamie to the show.

Jamie Stedman: Well, thank you, Wendy. And I now know how all your guests feel when they say, I need to wake up to that every morning.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, I know, right? So funny. And I’ve always told them, like, maybe I should start something. This is, like, my new business. I just record intros for people.

Jamie Stedman: Really? Could be. Yeah, I know, right?

Wendy Valentine: Like, it’s an alarm clock. Yeah.

Jamie Stedman: Because I feel like I’m blushing.

Wendy Valentine: It’s a good thing. It’s a good thing to blush.

Jamie Stedman: That is good. Yes. That was awesome.

Wendy Valentine: You and I had such a good chat even before I hit record. so we’re just gonna keep rolling with that. Good chat.

You cracked open spiritually with a sound bath two years ago

So let’s circle back to that spiritual, circle that you’re in, if you will, of the. Where you, like, really cracked open spiritually with the sound bath. And what. What was that aha Moment for you? Like?

Jamie Stedman: So that was about. Yeah, two years ago. Literally, I think just last month. It was two years ago, that I had seen a. A Facebook post from somebody in the community about a sound bath and kind of explained a little bit what it was, but I still was a little like, m. Okay, but this sounds cool. Like, I need this. I think I need this in my life. So, fast forward, you know, going to my first one. I had never experienced meditation before. Yes. I knew what it was. I’d heard about it. I always was kind of the, like, Whatever. That’s not for me. It’s, You know, just. I never in a million years ever thought I would try it or do it. I just didn’t think it was something that I would do. but it was, amazing. and Meg, who actually did the Healing Circle, and I’m throwing a shout out to her, seriously, because Meg Zechal, she’s been my mentor since day one, through a lot of everything I’ve been through. And, she had this sound bath. She, you know, was. She. She had really just come into, like, really her own knowing, too, where she realized that she needed to get out there and spread this with the community, with the world, right? And so she, like, I’m just gonna do a sound bath, and we’re just gonna see what happens. You know, it’s kind of what she did. so when I did my first one, the moment for me, really, like, I remember laying, like, you know, she. We probably, like, I was probably like a good half, hour to an hour where she just kind of explained, like, what she’s doing, why she was doing it, tell her story. And then we were supposed to lay down and do this meditation and listen to this beautiful music, right? And I remember, like, all of a sudden when I’m laying there, it dawned on me that I’m like, oh, gosh, I’m supposed to have an intention behind this. Like, what was I going to focus on? What am I going to do? And I remember laying there and it was like a filing can. It blew up in my mind. And I was like, oh, I don’t have anything chosen. And there’s so many things I need to work on, right? And so, like, I just all of a sudden, I don’t know. I just. I didn’t know. And I just. I think I fell asleep. That’s kind of how I felt. Like I just fell asleep. And, But I remember seeing color. And, And there was a point where the music had changed. And it kind of, like, it brought me out. But I wasn’t fully out of the meditation, I guess. At least I don’t think I was. But. But I just remember in that moment that when I kind of sort of came to, I had. I. I was crying, totally crying. Eyes were leaking. And my grandmother, my late grandmother, who had, recently passed away, was at the forefront of my mind, like, very. Like, her spirit was there. And that was a moment that I was like, well, if this is what meditating is, there’s something here, right? So that’s kind of what? It just. It kind of just. The floodgates opened, and, it really made me open up to. There is so much more here than what I thought or presumed there was. So that was my big moment. And then from every. Then, I was, like, signing up for every healing circle that she had. And then she was doing other. Like, she did, her sister does past life regression meditations, hypnosis. And then, her mother also, does, mindful work. And she taught us. Like, we had a. That’s a crystal class and, pendulums and, you know, like, there was so many different things that they did to try to teach everybody different modalities, into the mindful work, shadow work, whatever you call it. and I just took everything I could. Like, I just wanted to know more and more and more and more because things were. It was just. It was opening up things in me that, that I didn’t know I needed to work on, that I thought I had forgotten in my past that clearly I had not and was still holding a lot. And that’s a whole nother story. But, yeah, and I just kept going to all these classes, and I learned so much, and that’s kind of how it all started. And that was two years ago already now. So.

Wendy Valentine: Isn’t that neat, though? Like, you’ll experience one thing, and it kind of like, it, It does, like, opens that door, and then it’s like, oh, then you’re hungry for more and more, and then it’s like, go a little bit deeper and a little bit deeper. At any point of it, did it. Did it scare you at all of the things that might come to the surface? Like, oh, like you said, like, oh, things that you didn’t even know you needed to address, like, oh, my God. I had no idea I’d been, you know, living my life this way this whole time. Yeah. Any you want to.

Jamie Stedman: Yeah. You know, one of the biggest things was, Because some of my history, like, is a lot of childhood trauma, with my fathers.

The podcast opened up a wound that I thought I had dealt with

I have, you know, my biological father, my adopted father, and a lot that I thought I finally just moved on from and had gotten over that, that, like, it was, like, opening up a very, very deep wound that I thought I had dealt with, only to find out that truly most of my disease that I was having in my life at that time, like, I was in a place, a very messy place. I was more emotionally and mentally distraught than I thought I was, I guess. so it was really looking, like, looking in a Big mirror of, wow, I have a lot of baggage here that I have not dealt with. or at least I, I, I’ve, you know, it’s kind of like, you know, you can go and talk to a therapist and all of that, and that’s all great, and you can get all this stuff up, but what do you do with it? How do you truly heal from it after that? And that’s what this has done for me, where I can look at it now. And, like, I mean, like, and I was, you know, born and raised and a very, like, religious, you know, Lutheran girl. you know, went to a parochial school, all of that, all the religious stuff. And for me personally, this was the most. I, I guess I could say, like, this is the most I’ve ever felt close to God. for myself, you know, source, whatever that is for you. But that’s for m. Me, like, it’s never been sitting in a church. It was never that. So that was. It’s been profound for me in that way. And then feeling through a lot of things and. Yes. And those limiting beliefs and the conditional thinking, like, I really came. Came to a point where I’m like, God, have I even lived my own life at all? Like, I feel like all I did was live to this perfectly carved box that we were all supposed to live in. And so it’s really kind of, you know, broke that open and, has just like, I guess. Yeah. Eyes peeled open, you know, Heart.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Well, I mean, I think. I mean, for me, I always felt like after a while, I just kind of felt robotic. Like I was like, just this, you know, it was like Groundhog Day. Here I go. And being just very unconscious about, you know what I mean? Like, what, like, what am I doing? You know, another day would go by, like, what did I just do? Who am I? What the heck am I doing? Like, nothing was conscious of how I was going about my life. Yeah.

Jamie Stedman: Yes. Yes. That’s.

Wendy Valentine: There was something you said on your. Yeah, there’s something you said on your website. While comfort offers solace, true healing blossoms in the moments of challenge and transformation. You want to elaborate on that a little bit?

Jamie Stedman: Yeah. And that’s kind of, I guess, like, for my own story, is because I’ve lived just comfortably. So when. And let me get a little backstory, like, how I ended up listening to your podcast.

Back in August, I had just left my job of almost 16 years

So back last August, when I listened to your podcast or when I found your podcast, I should say I had just left my job of almost 16 years. I Loved my job. I put my heart and soul into that job. I thought I’d retire from that job. but sadly it became a very toxic place to work and I had to choose to leave. So I had just left that job, was just starting a new job, taking my baby all the way across the United States to drop her off to college.

Wendy Valentine: It’s so hard.

Jamie Stedman: I’m now a midlifer, empty nester, brand new empty nester. And I am sitting there like, holy shit, who am I? Yeah, I’m still a wife. Yes, I’m still a mother, but not full time. And I. It was, it was a. It was a moment. Like a moment. And, and it was. I really was like, God, who am I then?

Wendy Valentine: I.

Jamie Stedman: Driving, you know, so my new job, I had to, I do have to, commute a little bit, which didn’t sit well with me, really, but it was a really great opportunity I couldn’t say no to. But by doing my driving, I had. After the first two weeks, I was pretty bitter and hostile about it. I won’t lie. Like, I was like, this is not how it was supp. Supposed to be. This, you know. So I, like, I was dealing with that. So I ended up like, I need to. When I. After we got back from Arizona, I came back after dropping, my daughter off to college. I came back with like, okay, you know, kind of had a reset, had a little bit of time away, you know, from everything. I need to have a better attitude about this. Like, what can I do to make this better? And this is. I left for all the right reasons. I’m doing all the things I know I needed to do for my mental state. And then I started like, I’m going to listen to books and I’m going to listen to podcasts, and I’m going to keep learning, you know, whether it’s about crystals or whatever, it is all about the mindful world. I’m just going to keep on. I’m going to use that as my time so that when I’m home from work, I don’t have to do it. Then this is how I’m going to use that time. So well, lo and behold, I find this midlife makeover, or, you know, podcast of yours. And the first episode I was like, holy shit. Like, this was rope for me. Like, this is exactly how I feel. Like, literally lost. So that, on my website, that, is very, like, how I felt because so much of my life I was living in that comfort, that comfort of just what you know, Right. Like, you don’t go out of the box. It was always. Because we’re conditioned as we’re raised, to think in the negative form. Like, well, if I leave my job, but what if this, but what if that, but what if. But, what if. But what if. And it’s always negative, negative, negative, negative, versus, well, what if it’s awesome? What if you’re working for a place that’s freaking fantastic and everybody’s loves their job and it’s super fun? Like, you don’t think like that. And that’s the. And I. That’s so hard to get people to understand. And I. I was one of them. But to now see it like, God, change is good. And it can. Sometimes it might not be right. And. But that’s okay. But you don’t know if you didn’t try. And I think that’s because, like I said, it just goes back to that conditional thinking of thinking we can’t because we talk ourselves out of it right away before we even really think of, well, what if it is grand? And so that is the thing where you can stay in that comfort zone or you really can move on. And holy crap, you have no idea what’s waiting on the other side of that door.

Wendy Valentine: Exactly. And I’ve always said a comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.

Jamie Stedman: Exactly. That’s exactly what that means. Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: I mean. Yeah. I mean, at a comfort zone, a comfort zone can actually be very uncomfortable. Like, some people, myself included, will stay in an uncomfortable situation because it’s predictable. Because even. Even as we are, like, how we. Our behaviors and our habits and our will hang on to them because we know them. Like, even if it’s a bad habit or, an addiction, like, but you know it. So therefore you keep it even. It’s uncomfortable as it’s like, I’m gonna just stay here. Like, this is better, rather than getting outside of this comfort zone, even though it’s uncomfortable as hell and getting out of it just to even feel happier and to be healthier. And I mean, yeah, that’s what’s fascinating, I think, with human beings in general. Right. Like, we. We are creatures of habit, but we’re also creatures of change. But we don’t give ourselves permission to change sometimes. Like, we’re scared of change.

There’s that voluntary change and there’s that involuntary change, right

And I’m glad that you said that about change. Like, change, yes, change can be shitty sometimes, but change can be really, really good. And if you just like what you’re doing right now, I see in your life and Just what you’ve told me, you’re pushing the change. Like, I feel like there’s. There’s that voluntary change and there’s that involuntary change, right? Like, sometimes we’re forced to change. Sometimes we, you know, get called into the office and we get fired from our job. Well, crap. Like, you’re being forced to change to do something, or you’re served with divorce papers, or you get a bad diagnosis, whatever, right? Or there’s the. You wake up one day and you’re like, you know, I’m gonna. I’m gonna quit my job. I’m serving the divorce papers. Or, you know, like, I’m gonna change my health and I’m gonna be happier and healthier like that. It’s either like, that proactive change or that reactive change. And it seems like I so admire that. You’re in this. You’re in this beautiful place right now. You’re getting outside of that comfort zone you already have, and you’re, like, little by little, like, you’re not just, like, dipping your toe in the water. Like, you’ve. You’re going in.

Jamie Stedman: Going in.

Wendy Valentine: Amy is in. She’s swimming girls.

Jamie Stedman: Like I am. yes, but.

Wendy Valentine: And sometimes, like, I feel like. I don’t know, like, not everyone has to go about it this way, right? Some people want to take baby steps. Take baby steps. Some people, like, you know what? Let’s go balls out and let’s just do this. You know what I mean?

Jamie Stedman: Like, yeah, right?

Wendy Valentine: And whatever works for you, right? Like, I. I feel like for some people, just like I had on the show, I had Lee Burgess. She was the author of Be Bold Today, and we were talking about, like, well, what is bold? You know? Like, what does bold mean to you? What bold means to me is different to you and at different stages in life, right? Like, if I look back seven years ago, being bold was getting out of bed. You know, like, being bold was getting dressed. Maybe. Maybe I’ll wash my hair today, you know, or, And now being bold is okay, I’m going to go do a keynote speech in front of 10,000 people. That’s like, that next. You know what I mean? So, yeah, it’s. I think it’s a good thing for us to ask ourselves, you know, where can I change my life and how much do I want to change? And however much that is, it’s totally okay. So what’s. What’s your. What’s, your next desired, big, bold move?

Jamie Stedman: Oh, it’s funny you asked that, because I think I just Made it. I, actually I. My big bold move right now, I want to incorporate Reiki with my sessions. So I just signed up for a course to get that done. something I’ve been wanting to do for some time, but I just needed to. I had to get through some other stuff too, you know, and I, Yeah, it’s. It’s time for that.

Wendy says she feels like something big is coming

So there’s got some good feelings and I can’t even. There’s just. I can’t explain it. I just feel like there’s something coming. Like I’m waiting for it. I don’t even know what it is, Wendy. I don’t. But there’s just been. Like I said before we hit record, I was telling you how things just keep coming. Like good things have been coming and opportunities have been. Come knocking. And I just have this feeling something’s happening. I just don’t know what it’s going to be. But, you know, and like I said with my business, which I never in a million years thought I was going to do, honestly, you know, yes, it’s part time. It’s like my little gig where I’m just. I’m happy to help people and I just want. I just truly want to help people because I know what I’ve been through with, my past and how it’s got me to the point where I’m at now. And that’s a very long sort of story, which actually is on my, website where I talk about like how it. Yeah, there’s. So I have like my journal, which, is like my blog. And there is a very long story on there of kind of like my whole backstory of the childhood trauma where I. I came to a point, I was about my mid-30s, where I was literally laying on my bathroom floor and I literally thought I was going to die because the disease of all the. Which I found out was all this emotional stuff that had, you know, I was in fight or flight for basically probably since I was, I don’t know, a child, that had been carrying on through the years. Through the years, a lot of, you know, daddy issues. I guess we’ll just, you know, chalk it up too. And that really weighed on me and my life. And I mean, my story is. It’s pretty crazy because there was a point in my life where like, I mean, there were some days I couldn’t walk there. Like I had all these symptoms that I couldn’t even explain. Like, I have a list of things. I actually still have that list of things that happened through all those years and, like, and I couldn’t explain why and everything. And now here, how many years later, now in, you know, mid-40s. And it’s amazing to me what I have figured out by doing this work, the mindful work, and what I learned with the emotional part of it and how much that actually was stress on my body and resetting the nervous system. And it’s. I can never explain that fully to people. Like, I just. Like, it’s like, you just need to understand. Like, it sounds so simple. I know, but really it’s simple. But yet it’s not. Because healing is not simple. It can. The work of, like, how you do it can be simple. But when you have to go through that mucky waters and face those things, like, you know, you were talking about, like, you have to. You have to get real with yourself. You got to take a lot of ownership of your own, let alone what other people may have done to you. Right? and things that have happened. But it’s, It’s hard work, but it’s beautiful work at the end of it. And that’s like, you know, you say, like, tiptoeing into it. That’s kind of what I did with this is. I know I kind of was tiptoeing. Yes, I had a great experience, but it really wasn’t until just a few months ago when I went on a. My first women’s retreat, where some serious layers came tumbling down. And it was like that. You want to talk about an epiphany of life? that. But still then left me with, oh, my God, now I feel like a mess all over again. Who the hell am I? Well, that’s when I. I joined your freedom course, actually. So, yeah, it’s.

So talk about divine timing. Like, everything has been divine timing

So talk about divine timing. Like, I feel like everything has been divine timing. And. And that was what I needed, was I needed to really take a very long look in the mirror at myself and for once focus on myself. Because as, you know, as a mom and a wife, you. You know, you’re always. It’s. You lose yourself through those years. You really do. And obviously, like, I love my children, I love my husband, and I wouldn’t ever, you know, I don’t regret anything. But we do lose ourselves. And then when they’re all gone, then it’s like, well, now what?

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, I know, I know. Like, yeah, exactly. Like, we’ll always have that label of mother and wife or whatever, right? But then underneath that, then it’s like, wait, who. I mean, I was the same way I was like, who is this woman? Like that, like, look that I’m looking at. Who is she? What is she all about? You know, what does she want?

Jamie Stedman: Exactly. Exactly. And, you know, and. And that was, you know, especially leaving when that happened for me, too, and then leaving my. My job of 16 years. Like, that was the other part of me. That’s the only other part I knew of myself. Like, I knew how to be that person in that job, so I knew how to be mom at home, and that was that person. And now both of those things were gone, and it was just like, now what? Yeah, now what? And then I went to that retreat and had huge breakthroughs, and things kept coming up where I really was discovering, like, oh, I so understand why I do that. I understand why I’m that way or why I think that. And, so that was pretty amazing. And then. Yeah. Which then took me to, you know, was going back to work, and I’m listening to Wendy’s podcast, and all of a sudden, the freedom course come. Like, yeah, I feel like that’s the sign. Like, that was a sign. Like, just do it.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. Like, you and I talked about it. It’s almost like when you. When you open your heart and you’re ready to receive, like, all of a sudden, these little crumbs will just fall right in front of you. And it’s a matter of, like, you just picking up each crumb, and then it leads you to, like, well, a nice, yummy chocolate cake. That’s what I’m thinking about. No.

Jamie Stedman: But.

Wendy Valentine: Right.

What if this doesn’t work out? What? What

Like, so many of us and myself included, like, would not pick up the crumb for, you know, even though I’m like, oh, that is so tempting. I should do that, but I don’t have time. I’m not worthy. What if, like you said before, like, the what if. What if this doesn’t work out? What? What? And it’s like, I. I posted something on a couple weeks ago on social media about even with where I’m at now, I had this realization. I was like, oh, holy. Like, everything I’ve been dreaming about for years literally has just all manifested, you know, between, like, quitting my job, taking off in an rv, starting a podcast, writing a book. And. And I can remember thinking, and I’m always. It’s funny, my, my editor even said in the book I had to change it if she’s like, wendy, have you noticed you’re always on the floor crying. I was like, Well, I was. Yeah, okay, fine, we can get myself off the floor in chapter eight. Fine. But I was. But I found myself, like, here it was. I was gonna embark on this big journey and really finally make all my dreams come true. And I was, like, frozen, and I just started bawling, and I was like, what if this doesn’t work out? What if I suck? What if I can’t write? What if I get, you know, all of this stupid BS that we tell ourselves?

Jamie Stedman: Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: And I. I don’t know. In some ways, again, we’re human beings. Being human, like, it’s only natural. We’re. We’re built with this fight, flight, freeze response. But it was intended for, you know, oh, my God, there’s a lion coming my way. Not. Oh, you know, like, I had this cool dream in front of me. Like, you know, well, but we just.

Jamie Stedman: That’s.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Jamie Stedman: That’s funny you say that, because I just. I think I shared something on Facebook recently that was because I think back to, like, all them ailments, everything that was happening. I mean, I was in bad shape physically. Like, you couldn’t tell from the outside, but I was in turmoil. So mentally that I didn’t even realize it. But. And it caused so much stuff to my body that I look back at that now, and I’m like, my God, there was so many freaking red flags going, hello, like, now this part of your body hurts. And, like. And I. And I shared something on Facebook that I just chuckled, like, funny, but not funny is my. My guides are sending me a sign, but I think I’ll wait for a signier sign because, you know, you just. And I’m like, holy. That was so me. Like, I was, like, getting poked and prodded constantly. Wake up, girl. Wake up. There is something seriously wrong here with you. And I just kept ignoring it and just kept, you know, in that fight or flight mode of, I couldn’t get out of the conditional thinking. And. And it’s funny because I used to. Well, I am a person who always was. I was kind of the girl who. I don’t give a shit what anybody thinks. Right. Like, I’ve always been that person, but yet still somehow kept myself contained in the box because I didn’t want to make my parents or anybody look bad or. Because, you know, back then, too. You know, like, anything. Mental health or whatever, we don’t talk about, you know.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Jamie Stedman: You’re a.

Wendy Valentine: Like, if.

Jamie Stedman: Yeah. So, like, I could be that person who’s very. I don’t give a shit what anybody thinks. But yet I still look back and I kept Myself in that box for far too long of, I need to stretch out. So it wasn’t until the doctors sadly failed me. Not saying, don’t go to your doctor. Not what I’m saying. So let’s just put a disco disclosure on that right now. But, but I did. I saw, like, five specialists, and not a single person could help me. Not a single person. And that’s what kind of led me to a more holistic way, which still, it wouldn’t be until, what, eight years later when I meet Meg. So I still went through a very long time where that was starting to trickle into my life. But it was eight years later until I actually met Meg. And then here we are now.

Wendy Valentine: Wow. It’s just like in the book.

Wendy Valentine: Have you read the Body Keeps the Score?

Jamie Stedman: No, but someone just told me about that book.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, that’s what I see.

Jamie Stedman: Yes. Yes.

Wendy Valentine: That’s a sign of yours. I’m the sign of your sign that I love that book. And that’s actually what led me to. To do emdr. And I found a therapist in Chicago, and she did emdr.

The body remembers the pain that you felt as a little girl or teenager

And that it kind of, like, led me from one thing to the other. But I had the same thing where, like, my body, I was just in constant freaking pain and just suffering from one illness after another. And then, of course, menopause comes along and just really kicked my ass on top of all of it. I was like, good God. You know, But. But it’s true. The body does keep the score. It remembers the pain that you felt as a little girl or as a teenager, somebody bullying you, all of those things. And if it’s not fully released and we’re going to get to this, like, the energy healing, if that’s not released, your body just goes. It’s just like a sponge. It’s like, okay, yes. And it’s almost like a way of. Oddly, it’s almost like a way of protecting us. It’s like, okay, let me just hang on to this. And. And even, like, this is like, oh, we’re going to. You know, we’ll be able to fight back next time. Remember all this stuff, you know, instead of m. Just, like, letting it go.

Wendy says crystals can take on our energy too

So, yeah, let’s talk about that. Like, the deeper aspects of that of, like, of the energy and how emotions are energy and how those traumas are energy and how through what. Whether it’s Reiki or crystal or even. Even emdr, like, how that can all be released. Yeah, I’ll let you take that one.

Jamie Stedman: Yeah. Well, so I’ll explain kind of like what I do with my, you know, clients. That probably might be the best way to start. but just so that everybody does understand, if you don’t know much about energy, work and things like that, it, you know, with like, like sound is probably like the easiest one to use. An example first is sound, like with sound healing or like how sound, how we, our bodies react to that. So think about like, athletes who they’re about to go to their biggest game of their life and they’re probably playing all this amped, up rock and like rock and roll song. And they’re all like, they’re ready to go out on the field and just like go pound heads, right? Like that gets them amped up. That gets them. That gets, that gets the energy flowing. Right? you listen to 432 Hz, the frequency of nature, very calm and collecting. And it’s going to bring your, you know, anxiety or just going to calm you down and get you to that good space. you know, so that’s how, you know, music can work and how your sound healing can work. So energy. And when you’re talking like crystal energy, I guess I was trying to figure out how, like, how can you like, like talk about this where people completely understand it. Because sometimes it’s not always easy to understand. But, like, so if you have a, like a WI FI in your house and there’s a part of the house that it’s just not, you know, you don’t have a great connection. You can get like an extra extender, right? Well, crystals can be the very same way one there. It’s a scientific fact. crystals hold energy. Like that’s, that’s just a scientific fact. That’s about as much as scientific as I’m going to get with you. Because science and me do not get like. I just never was good at science. I know you are, Wendy. Yeah, but, yeah, but, but with that, the, the crystals, they interact with our, with our energy. So, you know, we have those center points called the chakras that run through our body. and they, can amplify with that energy. They can take on our energy too. So that’s why, you know, I always like, don’t ever just pick up someone’s crystal. Like, don’t. Like, you can put something into someone else’s crystal, you know, like, so, like, if you have like crystals in your office. I have a friend who has crystals in her office and she always jokes and she was like, I get so mad when everybody at work wants to touch my crystals, I’m like, don’t put your negative energy on my crystal.

Wendy Valentine: So back off of my crystal.

Jamie Stedman: Yeah, right, right. So, but they, they are, they can and crystals. And this isn’t always a true fact. But you know, all the chakras have colors, right? So like your root is red, sacral is orange and keeps going up, with different colors crystals, you can connect the color of a crystal to go with those. But that’s not always, always technically true. But for the most part, you know, it’s an easy way to like, oh, this crystal could be used for my root or you know, so like green can be for my heart or pink can be for my heart. so I lost. Lost train of thought for a moment. so but with, with using crystals on someone’s body, that does, it does help move energy. It helps, you know, can block that stagnant energy that is happening. And. But that’s why I like to use the sound in my sessions too. So when you’re using crystals, they are, you know, they’re, they’re like I said, they’re amplifying with your energy and you can. What the biggest thing to know is it’s all about the intention behind it. So for example, and I just put this out on my website. I had I have like a free resource on my website that has, I just did a healing, an intro like healing guide. Ah, healing, sorry, it’s healing with crystals, guide. So it’s very basic on like how the maintenance of crystals, how to keep them, you know, cleansed, charged, care for them, setting those intentions and how you can use them in your meditation or using for energy work. So when I have a client who wants to do a healing session, they do a questionnaire. I usually have. it usually kind of just helps me know, like why are they seeking a session? What’s their intention behind it? So that I can carefully, you know, select the crystals that go with those intentions. Because crystals can have, you know, like amethyst, it’s a very calming stone. It also can be good for digestion. and if you have. So if you’re like a lot of anxiety, obviously we’re probably going to choose an amethyst stone. And if you were to set an intention of, you know, like I just, I want this crystal and there’s, there’s something like how I say. I guess the easiest way is just to tell you how I do it. So when you take. So like you know, an amethyst stone. If you take that stone, I put it and I put it in, you know, in my hand. And if I’m going to meditate with it or like, I need calming, I mean, I’m. The more you use your crystals and more relationship that you make with them. And I know that might sound funny, but truly it is true. I can pick up my amethyst, and if I’m, you know, if I am having a stressful day, I can pick that up and just hold it and it’s like. And I can just feel that wash over my body.

Wendy Valentine: Yes. Yep.

Jamie Stedman: Don’t expect that to happen your first time holding a crystal. It could. It might. It might not. And don’t get frustrated, because you do have to build relationships with your crystals. I’ve been to a crystal store where I’ve held a crystal, and I feel nothing.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Jamie Stedman: But I still love it. And I like what it’s used for, so I’m gonna get it and then I get home. And sometimes it’s just getting home in a quiet space and really, like, focusing, working with it. Then it comes. But, you know, there’s some stones that come to me, like, naturally. Like, immediately I touch it, I’m feeling the vibration, the pulse, whatever it may be.

Even different crystals have different frequencies, different vibrations

So, so selecting the crystals, you know, it’s really important. and I would think too, I have. I had.

Wendy Valentine: Go ahead. I’m sorry.

Jamie Stedman: Oh, no, that’s okay. What’s your question?

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, I was gonna say, I would think that even different crystals have different frequencies, different vibrations.

Jamie Stedman: Yes. And that is actually true. Some people might not figure that out. Like. Yeah, that was something. Actually, I was going to say is when you, like. I would say if you’re starting with crystals, pick like three or four that you really like, and the more you work with them and just. And just hold them. And one of the things is your less dominant hand is your receiving hand. Your dominant hand is your giving hand. So when you’re holding a stone, you should always be putting it in your receiving hand. You’re less dominant and then copy over on. On that. So you’re going to hold it like such, and you can hold it up to your heart, whichever. But something. Little crystal thing that I learned in my, course. So, But yeah, so when you. When you hold it like that, you can actually feel. It might vibrate, it might pulse, like kind of like a heartbeat. Pulse is almost like the best way to explain it. But if you hold them enough and you get used to those Crystals enough, you could probably put them in a bag and pull one out, not look and hold on to it. And you probably could guess which one it is. M. The more you work with them. I’ve actually had Green adventuring is one that, like, I think amethyst is one. I definitely always know when I’m holding an amethyst. Green adventuring is the only crystal for me yet that when I hold it long enough, it will. It like pulses, like a nice heartbeat for me. But then all of a sudden it ends up like, you know, like you put a. You put a battery to the end of your tongue and there’s like that little vibration, that little jolt that’s like, I’ll get that from a green adventuring. It’s really strange. It’s the crystal I’ve ever had that happen with. So they all, they all do have different, you know, like their frequencies and things like that. And that’s why, you know, they kind of are paired with the, the chakras. Right. but really setting those intentions. so when, you know, let’s see the green.

Wendy Valentine: Green is heart. Right.

Jamie Stedman: Pink can. Pink is actually hard too. So, yeah, so, and then like, usually like black stones, brown stones, red stones will be your root. and then like oranges, orange, brown, you know, even almost yellowish, but more yellow is your solar plexus. So, yeah, so, But yeah, so it’s really setting the intention. And then I will actually make a, playlist. I have like different playlists. So if someone’s really dealing with anxiety in their life, it’s probably going to be a pretty calm playlist. I think the difference, honestly, between probably what my sessions and maybe most like whether it’s Reiki or crystal, other crystal healers. I really like incorporating the sound healing with the crystal healing. I just think it’s really important. It’s something that’s really worked for me so well. Like, I mean, so I’ll use like tuning forks. I use the music. I use, sound bowls along with the crystals. And I just feel like it just gives that extra. I don’t know, I just think it’s extra soothing in my opinion. but. And then I’m in the playlist could be like, if I have somebody who. I mean, I have some people who are like, I like more drumming, you know, so, like, we’ll do more tribal music and things like that. But I usually try to do a little bit, little amped up music, a little bit more like drummy music to like get that energy flowing like, that’s important. you know, they say like, if you are feeling kind of really just sluggish and move your body, move. Like just, you know, like, just get wiggling around and move. My mentor ended up having us one time at a, one of our. Because I did a six week, embodiment mentorship with her. And I’ll. I’ll never forget the night where she’s like, okay, lay down. We’re all thinking, oh, we’re gonna have our meditation now. I mean, I think we did. But at first she’s like, I want you to just like, just wiggle around and move. Like, I’m just gonna play this music and you’re gonna wiggle around and move. And it felt so weird at first. I was like, you want us to what? But I’ll tell you, I was shocked. Like, man, you like, it’s moving that stagnant shit out.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Jamie Stedman: Felt amazing afterwards. And it was so wild to me. So that’s why they always say, like, move your body. Like, like, don’t just sit around, like, take a walk. Go do something. And it’s funny now. Like again, I have to be in my mid-40s to really see this. All this stuff. And it’s kind of crazy and into.

Wendy Valentine: Most importantly, feel it, right? Like that’s, that’s where.

Everything is energy and that’s where the healing occurs, right

Yeah, that’s where the healing occurs. It’s not something that you can. I, know. It’s like just trying to even explain all of this, right? It’s. It’s like if someone had never eaten an orange before and you’re like, trying to explain this is what it tastes like. And this, like, how do you describe that? You know, it is a feeling, it is a vibe. It is tuning into and being open and receptive. And I always say that, like, I mean, everything is energy and energy is everything. Literally. And it’s like I. I remember when I started learning about quantum physics. Get all. Get geeky here. But yeah, I mean, it’s like an. An atom is 99.9999 energy. And that leaves only.00001% matter. And we are made up of atoms. The chair you’re sitting on is made up of everything is atoms. Which means everything is basically a hundred percent energy. There’s like a teensy tiny bit of matter. But as humans with our eyeballs, we see the physical, which is insane. Like that. We’re seeing that teensy tiny bit of the matter. And why does it all matter? It matters because when you tap into that 99.99% of energy. That’s where the miracles happen. That’s where the healing happens. That’s where you shed all of the crap that you’ve been hanging on to. And it is literally just kind of. It’s a shift of thinking, it’s a shift of feeling. And I. That’s why. I mean, thank God for spiritual healers because, with me, like, as many as that I had seen, it was them. Sometimes you’re so stuck that you can’t do it yourself. And that’s okay.

Jamie Stedman: Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: And sometimes you need, like, someone as a catalyst to go and just lift that from you. Just, just, just like you did, like you experience in the sound bath. It’s the same thing.

Jamie Stedman: And I tell my clients that too, is like, Joe, crystals aren’t a magic wand. Like, they’re not. They’re not a magic wand. They are a. It’s an energy source that can help build, you know, break through things. It’s like something that can help, you know, amplify your healing. But don’t expect it to be. I’m going to put these crystals on you, I’m going to scan your body, we’re going to do all this energy work on you, and you’re going to walk out of here healed, new, brand new person. Like, it just doesn’t work that way. You’re going to feel probably more at peace and you might feel better. We might break through something. I mean, recently, the last couple months, I’ve. The more I do this right, the more the intuition taps in and things, you know, start happening where I was actually doing a crystal session. I’ve had to, Where an overwhelming. I’m starting to. I’m starting to get in tune with other people’s energy a lot more than I was even before where I, took on. I don’t want to say I took on because I’ve learned how to not take on people’s energy.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Jamie Stedman: But I sense the, very overwhelming sadness that someone might be feeling. Like, I. Like, the room just gets hot and it just. There was a moment and I usually don’t talk to my clients in their sessions because I’m wanting them to get into that meditated state. But it was. And it was a good friend of mine, thankfully. But I got a very emotional myself because, like, I could just feel that she was really struggling with something. And I finally. I just had to put my. I put my hand on her shoulder and I’m like, I just need you to know that you need to speak your truth, I had no idea where the hell that came from. It just flew out of my mouth. And I’m like, what the hell? And I. And I was just like. And I don’t know if it’s to yourself or to someone, but you’re holding back something. I can feel it. And the barrier just came down. And then the release happened. And it was beautiful. It was beautiful. But, you know, then I learned more of, Oh, there’s a reason why there was something. Yeah. You know, and so it’s strange how sometimes it can work. And, like, I hope that does happen more and more, you know, the more I’m, you know, you know, open to it, too. But, yeah, it is. But like I said, it’s not. Don’t think it’s a one and done. Like, it’s not.

When we say I’m a crystal healer, that doesn’t mean I’m truly

Can you come? Can you get a session, learn more? Sure. And then work on it at home? Absolutely. You know, I’m just kind of. That. I’m not. When we say I’m a crystal healer, that doesn’t mean I’m truly going to, like, put my hands on you. And you’re going to be. We are done. You know, all that pain has gone. Everything’s done. it’s going to help, but it’s going to teach you. And so that you can continue on, whether you come see me weekly, monthly, or you work on it, on yourself. But. Yeah, healing. There’s a reason why not everybody does it. Because it. It can be very ugly.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, yeah, for sure. Yeah. And I think it’s up. Up to each individual person. Because, like, you couldn’t. I can’t fix you. You can’t fix me. Right. You can kind of like. Yeah. It’s kind of showing you. Oh, here. This. This is it. This is. This could be the issue here that you’ve been struggling with. Oh. And then it’s. Then it’s up to each person to go and fix that themselves or. Right. And actually, I don’t. I mean, I don’t know. Fix. I don’t like that word. I’ll have to think of something else.

Jamie Stedman: But healing from it. Releasing. Yeah, you know, releasing that. What? No Longer serves you.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, exactly. And it’s like, you know, energy cannot be created or destroyed, so basically it just gets transferred. It just gets moved. But it’s up for us there. That’s what it is. It’s. It’s up for us. It’s up to us to move it, to move that energy out.

Forgiving is taking your power back, whatever that may know

Yeah.

Jamie Stedman: And taking your power Back, whatever that may know. Because if you are struggling with a relationship situation, whether it was a divorce or like, you know, my fathers who hurt me, like, it’s. I. When I was told to take my power back, like, I remember the first time that was said to me, and I was like, I hold my power. Nobody controls me. What are you talking about? Like, I was very defensive in that way where I was like, I don’t. What are you talking about? Like, I’m tough. I. Yeah, it’s not. Yeah, it’s, It is really interesting where, like, you’re telling me I just needed to be like, you know, and it’s. It’s not as easy as it sounds when I say just forgive. I think there’s that. For. It’s not forgive and forget. It’s forgive and truly releasing and having, I guess, that open mind of. I, understand now more than ever. Like, I see why maybe they are the way they are. I can see what their childhood somewhat was like. Like, I understand it. maybe not all of it, but I understand some of it. And I can see where. The place where they were maybe, you know, and this is. Maybe they were. They. They came here to this, you know, human experience to be my lesson, you know, to teach me the lesson. Right. Like, you know, and whether people believe in past lives and all of that doesn’t matter. But, you know, we all came here for a purpose. And sometimes people’s purpose is. It’s not always. Sadly, not always maybe a good purpose, you know, but at least, you know, they. They are someone’s lesson, I guess, if you will. And I’ve learned, a lot. And. And really releasing, like, figuring all of that out and then releasing all of that pain that came with it. And know that that doesn’t define who I am, who I have to be or anything. So, like, really stepping into that power of you’re not. I can be upset. I can cry all day long that you don’t want, you know, like, you know, I’m your daughter. How do you do this? Or how do you act this way? I. You know, like, asking all those questions. Like, it was always. I guess here’s the best way. I was always. What’s wrong with me? Why, what’s wrong with me? Like, I’m the common denominator in this. Why is there something wrong with me? Why don’t you want to be my dad? Or why don’t you want to treat me the way you should, whatever. And taking that power back of, like, I am letting My feelings on how it’s made me feel control everything about who I am and how I am, and how I respond to things. So taking that power back and knowing that I’m going to be okay, you are the way you are. I still love you, but I have to love you at a distance. And there has to be that boundary because I won’t put myself in that position for you to prove me anymore. And so that’s like. That’s that step of taking that power back. I guess that might have been a very long.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, no, I mean, it just. Yeah, no, it totally all makes sense. And just like you said before, it’s like it’s learning from those challenges. And that’s why sometimes it’s. I mean, not like we all want to have crappy things happen to us in life, but sometimes when it does happen, it’s like, okay, what can I take from this? What can I learn from this? I’ve said. I mean, I’ve talked about my brother on the show before. You know, he passed away from addiction at the age of 49 years old. And I’ve always said he’s my greatest teacher because he was, It was the most challenging relationship I ever had my whole life. And it taught me. It did teach me about forgiveness. It taught me about acceptance. It talked, taught me about, you know, unconditional love. I mean, so many different things that. That if I didn’t have that challenging relationship, I. I wouldn’t. I wouldn’t be where I’m at today, actually. Yeah, I would.

Jamie Stedman: And having that understanding for people, you know, I mean, there’s other things, obviously, that have happened in my life, too, that made me really, really, truly realize, like, you can say, oh, everybody has their own. But, certain things can happen in your life where you’re like, wow, really? Everybody does have their own shit. And to be more like, you don’t know why someone might be acting. Acting the way they are, so really having that heart for them and holding that space of, like, you know what? Maybe they did just act like a jerk, but we don’t know what’s going on. Like, maybe it was a stressful day. Like, so really having that understanding, of, you know what. Why people are the way they are. you know, we can’t control how they are, but what we can control is how we react to it and just having more kindness and sincere, you know, just understanding that we don’t understand, but we don’t have to be a jerk back.

Wendy Valentine: Right? Exactly. And, like, it doesn’t make it okay, but we get it correct. And it’s just, it’s a matter of it not clinging to you.

Everyone’s energy and the people you surround yourself with can affect you

Like I think of like a non stick pan. Like just let the slide. Right.

Jamie Stedman: Yeah. Their energy cling to you. Exactly. That’s that energy transfer. Yes. You hang out with. Have you ever. So there’s actually ah, there’s a documentary and a book that The Secret of Water. Have you ever heard of this?

Wendy Valentine: Oh God, yes. with what’s his name?

Jamie Stedman: I know, I can’t remember the guy’s name. He did this. There’s a book and there’s a documentary. You can find it on YouTube or whatever. But it’s the same thing. Like, so if you have a jar of water and you have it in a toxic environment and you talk bad, do it every day and it’ll turn brown. And then if you have this in a positive, another one in a positive environment and you talk nice to it all the time, people stay clear. Like this has been They’ve done this and it’s it. I was like amazed. I was like, wow. And they, and there’s a story in the book where they were around this lake and they help. Like they were like singing to it and talking.

Wendy Valentine: Yes.

Jamie Stedman: To it. And this lake cleared out and got beautifully, beautifully clear. so that right there, like how we take on people’s energy. Same with how music you listen to that, that like hardcore rock music, you get amped up and it might even make you angry where you listen to the, you know, nice Hertz music and you’re a lot softer. Yeah, I think so.

Wendy Valentine: Exactly. I think over the, over the years I’ve become what I call an energy snob. Like I’m very selective, you know, like where I’m giving my energy and most importantly how I’m receiving that energy. And the people that as we know like every. Everyone’s energy and the people that you surround yourself with can affect you.

Jamie Stedman: So true. So true. Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: I am so glad that you and I have connected. I’m so glad that you picked up me as a little crumb.

Jamie Stedman: Me too. I like it is. Oh gosh, like your podcast is so fantastic. I always tell my friends, listen to it. You need to. I even told my daughter like, I don’t care if you’re 23, you should listen to it life lessons now.

Wendy Valentine: Well, exactly right. I mean I thought. I actually do have some people that are like in their 20s and 30s that follow and listen and I, I think that’s awesome. I’m like, oh, my God, if I only knew then what I know now. Right? Like, yeah, yeah. By the time they get in their 40s and 50s, they’re gonna be like. They’ll be like, what? I don’t. You know, they won’t have all the crap that we had, you know, which is awesome. so where can we find you? And, Yeah, where can we find you?

Jamie Stedman: So my, website is Reviving Roots with crystals dot com. And like I said, there’s lots of, you know, you can learn my. More. My past history of, you know, where it all began. and then there’s some free resources on there about crystals, which will be, you know, so to. I know, like, we could talk all day. Wendy. I think, like, there’s so much I think we meant to talk about and we didn’t get there now. but. And then I do have, Facebook and. Which is Reviving Roots. and then in, on Instagram as well. So.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, I love the name. I love the name. Reviving Roots.

Jamie Stedman: Yeah. The logo I made myself. And there’s a lot that stands behind that, so I’ll tell you. and I had a friend who actually sparked the idea, but the purple is for the. The violet flame. If you don’t know what that is, Google it and go do some research on it and then you’ll understand. But, it’s a very protective light, basically. so a lot of, you know, healers and light workers would know about it, but it’s, So that stands for the violet flame. And then the gold is for the, the gold healing light that is always, we say, is gold. Like, the white light is protection and gold is healing. pink is love. And then, the roots, obviously, because it really does start back with our roots of who. Who we really are, who we were meant to be. All that good stuff. So. And then obviously there’s the crystals because, you know, it’s all about that.

Jamie’s goal is to reach more people through Reiki

The crystal. The crystal world that I love so much.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. Well, and again, I love the name because it makes me think of, like, I always say that, you know, sometimes we feel like we have to learn something new, but it’s really the unlearning. It’s. It’s the reviving. It’s just bringing yourself back to life.

Jamie Stedman: Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Jamie Stedman: So true. Yes.

Wendy Valentine: Thank you so much. You’re awesome. I could talk to you all day.

Jamie Stedman: I know, I know. Well, what are you doing for the next outno? So.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, you gotta come down to Sedona like.

Jamie Stedman: Yes.

Wendy Valentine: But who knows? Maybe I’ll make it. Make it your way for the, for the book tour. That would be so cool.

Jamie Stedman: Oh, that would be fun. Somehow, some way, I mean, you know, I’ll have to. When I come to Arizona, which should be sometime this year, I’ll have to just see. Where are you?

Wendy Valentine: Where’s Wendy? Instead of. Instead of Where’s Waldo? It’s. Where’s Wendy?

Jamie Stedman: Yeah, absolutely. So.

Wendy Valentine: But, yeah, my little house on wheels.

Jamie Stedman: But I appreciate you having me on here, and, you know, it’s a dream come true. I didn’t even know I wanted.

Wendy Valentine: You’re so awesome. Thank you so much. And, yeah, everyone go follow Jamie. Go check out her website. Love your website. And, I’m excited for you. You’re. Yeah. There’s gonna be some amazing things up ahead. I feel it. I feel it.

Jamie Stedman: I’m hoping with doing the Reiki, you know, once I get that obtained, I am hoping to. My. My. My goal is to do, distance, so that, you know, you don’t have to just come to Wisconsin and see me. I want to do, you know, more distance stuff because I think that’s. That’s so. It makes it easy. It’s. It’s, Yeah, that’s. That’s. That’s kind of the goal. Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: I love it.

Jamie Stedman: I want to touch more people, you know?

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, exactly. Yeah. And again, roll energy. You can. You can touch everybody from here to China.

Jamie Stedman: No, Right. Correct. Correct. Yes. So, thank you so much, Jamie.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. Thank you, everyone. Have a great day.

Jamie Stedman: Thanks. Bye.