Wendy Valentine: Welcome back to the Midlife Makeover Show. Today’s guest is not only a passionate coach and former educator, but also a fierce advocate for our next generation. Woohoo. Christy Simons is a teen life coach who’s made it her mission to teach teenagers what she wishes she had known at her age. Practical tools, emotional awareness, and the confidence to trust themselves and take brave action. As a former teacher and a mom to two amazing kids, listen to these names. They are adorable. Hendrix and Beatrix, both with exes. I love it. Christy brings both heart and real world experience to everything she does. In this episode, we’ll chat about how confidence is more than just a feeling. It’s something we do.

Kristi Simons: Word.

Wendy Valentine: Christy will share how she helps teens reverse engineer how they want to feel feel. Why taking action is the ultimate confidence builder. I totally agree. And how parents can support their teens without fixing everything for them. This conversation is empowering, heartfelt, and packed with wisdom for anyone raising, mentoring, or being a teenager.

Christy is the first teen coach that I’ve ever had on the show

Please welcome Christy to the show.

Kristi Simons: Oh, my gosh, I’m smiling so big right now. That was incredible. I literally felt I was seeing in my mind, like, you know, before, like a football game when they all come, like, running through the smoke and there’s the lights and the music and the. The mascot. You feel like the mascot on the show right now. I appreciate you and I appreciate all of that. That was incredible. Confetti. Ever been introduced?

Wendy Valentine: What’s funny, I used to, I used to record these separately. Like, I would just record them afterwards or whatever, and then I’d have the editor attach it, you know, and then I was being interviewed by someone and she did that, and I was like, damn. I kind of like that. I was like, you know, like, little boost, you know, for the guests. And like, damn, who’s she talking about? so, yeah, I. I love it too. Kind of like brings the energy instead of just like all of a sudden going, and here we are, you know?

Kristi Simons: And I mean, it truly is such a gift, though. I do want to thank you for having me. I was thinking about this earlier, and what came through for me too was just that every time I get to have a conversation like this, it’s almost as if almost bridges, like, this gap for me in my memory. So there are always things that will come to surface that I am needing to hear. And then I feel like in turn, in these conversations, like, that same thing is happening for other people. So meaningful conversations are just my absolute favorite thing. So I feel honored to be here with you.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, it’s I’m so honored to have you here. And I shared with you earlier that it’s always my thing, like in the morning when I’m getting ready, I think about my guest, like the guest, the, the interview I’m going to be having. I think about my listener, like what do need to hear and what can I ask that can really help them, you know, and help you? And, and I, I love this. First of all, you, you are the very first teen coach that I’ve ever had on the show. And you think about there’s a lot of, a lot, probably midlifers out there that still have teens at home or even shoot. I mean, you could even have a teenager, grandchildren, I mean really. Right? So, and it made me think about teenager Wendy. And I think that we should all, whoever’s listening right now, think about who you were back then. You know, like who you were as a teenager, what you struggled with, what was easy, what was fun, what was challenging. And I mean, those are critical, critical years of our lives. I’m curious, what were you like as a teenager and what were some of your struggles?

Kristi Simons: Well, what I was just thinking about is that question I told you before that I ask everybody that comes onto my podcast. It’s if you could speak to your teen self, what would she need to hear? And it’s probably like my favorite thing. Like, I wish I could honestly take clippets of all of those moments for all of the guests that have been on the show and just like compile them, like put them all together. Because that’s truly where the value is and our answer will change like on a day to day basis. For me, it’s really about understanding back then that like there was this power source within that I could tap into. I was just numbing myself to that. And it’s because I didn’t feel accepted. And a lot of things were really based on external factors. And so had I learned to come back like within and really reconnect with myself and my authenticity and the things that I love just by asking myself simple questions on a daily basis and then taking action and in that direction, it would have significantly changed the trajectory of my life. So my teen self was really the opposite of that. She was disconnected, she was numbing constantly. She was putting herself in, putting herself in situations with people, that really did not serve her. That caused a lot of shame for me, like, especially as I moved into adulthood, had my children and went on my own healing journey. I started to recognize, like when I started doing this work and stepped away from teaching that my teen years are really the reason why I do this. Like, it’s her voice that has been trying to speak the loudest. It’s her power that I’m tapping into now because I never tapped into it back then. And this is what is guiding the way that I teach teens. moving forward.

Wendy Valentine: What was your support like back then and your guidance?

Kristi Simons: Looking back and understanding what I know now, my parents, my teachers, everyone around me really, they didn’t understand what I also didn’t understand. And so to expect them to teach me something that they didn’t know themselves. This is why I talk a lot m on my podcast too, about just how teachers are doing their best. I was doing my best back when I was in the classroom. But really, truly, when I look at, like, the whole picture, they are really missing a lot of the key foundational skills that are really going to help our youth to thrive as they get older, as they explore, as they move through life with all the challenges they will face, like building resilience and just being able to understand emotional intelligence. Like, that is the key that is the foundation of everything. Like, it also learning, like, to think about what you think about.

What do you feel is the difference between coach and therapy

This came to me as like, a visual too today. And maybe it was for this part of the podcast specifically, but I thought about it in terms of bees. I have a fear of bees. It’s like one of those fears where, like, in the summertime, because I know summer’s approaching, right? Like, we’re in spring now. And like, I’m the type of person that won’t even, like, step outside if I see, like, bees, like, flying around, like, my back deck. I’m terrified of them because I’ve been swung once. Because I’m the type of person that likes to swap my hands to, like, get them away. I’ll take a pillow. Like, I’ll whack them all around because I’m just. I’m terrified. And I realize that our thoughts can be a lot like that.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Kristi Simons: If we learn to just, like, let them pass and not react, like, moving our hands all about and trying to, like, essentially control the situation. Like, they will just, like, they will just be literally like a bee and they will just. They won’t sting you and then you won’t have that hyper vigilance. So it’s really just about training ourselves and training, like, our mind. So really, truly, my teen self needed so much guidance in terms of her mindset and just learning how to use that emotional power that she had. for good in her life.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. And it’s learning to respond rather than react and, and most importantly, being proactive rather than reactive. Right. Always getting ahead of whether it’s, you know, and I mean, I, when I think back, my gosh, again, you know, with my teen years, I mean, I was on my own since 15, since I was 15 years old. And I struggled. I was a very strong woman. I would say woman, because I had to be a woman. And then I was like, I had, you know, I was pregnant at the age of 19. And even, even though, like, I, I started seeing a therapist when I was a teenager, for some reason, I had this insight and this intuition, like, I need to see a therapist. I would go to support groups, like, at night and stuff, after school and after work and after school. And, But I, I, I think back, like, how much a coach. There’s a difference, right? There’s a difference between a coach and therapist. And I feel like whether it’s as an adult or especially as a teenager, sometimes a coach is not as intimidating, if you will. And a coach is going to literally coach you through your life. Not just. And I love therapy. I, again, like, I’m pro therapy. I’ve been, you know, seen a therapist for decades, but there is a difference. So actually, what, what do you feel is the difference between coach and therapy?

Kristi Simons: I knew this question was coming, and the first thing that I want to say is I just see it as, like, such a compliment. Like, they both complement one another. And you’re right, it’s also like. And they are so different in the sense that there’s just. Well, for me personally, like, I can speak from my own experience and then also what I see with my clients. But for me personally, because I do have my own coach as well. I’ve been with her for three years. It’s, it’s the community, it’s the accountability, it’s the being able to check in and knowing that you have, almost like what you did for me at the beginning of this show when you just, like, you acted like my biggest fan, the biggest cheerleader I’ve ever had. Like, that’s huge. It’s all about that connection. Like, we talk about reverse engineering how teens want to feel, and this is what I do for myself on a daily basis too. Like, it’s all about that. It’s about that feeling. Like, I feel so lit up to have this conversation with you just because of how you set that energetic tone for me. It’s so good.

Wendy Valentine: That is awesome.

Kristi Simons: And so Just bringing that to like the space for them. Right. Like we’re not just talking or having them kind of talk in circles about what’s going on with them. That’s important too. And it’s really important to like, for me, in my own work, like I move that energy. I’m a Reiki master. I do energy healing with my clients. I do guided self love meditations. So really helping them to look at those beliefs that they have and then recognizing like from those beliefs, like the thoughts and the feelings are being created and then that’s what’s creating their reality. So just helping them to like hear a different language essentially. I started saying like, once I met my coach, I felt like I was literally like immersed in this space where the language was different. Like it felt like a language of self love, confidence and empowerment. And that wasn’t one that I was used to hearing before. It was a lot of fear, scarcity, lack, like things don’t ever work out for me. Things always go wrong. and now it’s just like a flip has been switched because I’m so consistent with these practices and it’s just, it’s impossible not to see possibility once you focus your energy and attention somewhere else.

Wendy Valentine: No, I love that. You know what too? Like, I mean, think about those teen years, how pivotal that is. And I think you mentioned something in the beginning, like the trajectory of your life would be so different. Like think, think if, like, I mean, no joke. I mean it probably wasn’t until I was 50 years old, two years ago, no joke, that I literally finally fell in love with me, that I finally liked Wendy and I love Wendy, but. And that took decades of trying to unravel shit and eliminate, these limiting beliefs that were just hanging on, you know, and think that if a teenager would be able to eliminate those limiting beliefs, before they’re 20 years old, like, my God, like, think of how powerful they’re they would be and how, how amazing and extraordinary their life would be just by them falling in love with themselves as a teenager.

Your teen years literally do, like, pave the path for your future

Kristi Simons: Can I tell you something? Please. Wild that you brought that up. Yeah, I literally on a walk today was having thoughts, as we all do. They just flood in constantly. 60 plus thousand a day. and I noticed something, and I’ve been noticing something more so recently. Like this has been definitely more present for me in the last year, I would say. And it speaks to exactly what you were saying. I had a thought today and I typed it in my phone because I do keep like just an intuition kind of, like, folder where I know my intuition is speaking to me. And like, I heard, like, the thought said, like, I love myself. So I literally, like, typed that into my phone and I got super emotional because I was like, I. I’ve never, like. I know I’ve never thought that before. I’ve never had that thought before. Maybe when I was younger and I don’t remember, but definitely not when I was a teen. And definitely not, like, moving through, like, my 20s. And even, like, as I started my journey as a mom. M. Yeah, there was a lot more shame there and a lot more guilt for the things, that I hadn’t yet forgiven myself for. And so that. Yeah, it was just really, really special. And that’s also the connection that I hope that they can also connect with.

Wendy Valentine: Yes. Yeah. And I think I should have looked this up before. And you. You might know this. but isn’t it like the. The human brain of a teenager when, like, male versus female of when it’s fully developed? And that’s like, that’s a huge part of that too, because the brain is still developing during those critical years, and at the same time it of develop, you. You’ve got the influence of freaking social media, friends, bullies, you know, family. Like, all of this is flooding into this sponge inside their. Their innocent minds. And. And then all of a sudden, next thing you know, it’s almost like one of those things is like, oh, years go by, like, you’re in your 20s. You’re like, holy. Why. Why do I think this way? How I like, you know, and if. If it’s not addressed, it does. It literally will. Like your. Your teen year. I’ve not had not thought about this until this morning. Like, your teen years literally do, like, pave the path for your future. I mean, they can.

Kristi Simons: Yeah. And to be clear, like, I’ve given myself a ton of compassion for this.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah.

Kristi Simons: My journey is what. Like, it was what it was. And like, I’m here today and I’m able to use that as my story to speak and bring awareness and also do work that, like, I never thought I would be doing. I never saw myself leaving teaching ever in a million years. I was there for over a decade. Excuse me. Before, I ended up taking the leap and just trusting myself. but that was, like, a really huge decision, and it was a scary one, too. A really scary one to make. But I’m so grateful that I did because I continue to learn so much about myself, and it just. That’s what it feels like, to me, it feels like for them, and I know that they kind of speak the same truth that I’ve always spoken when I was a teen. And it’s probably why I’m. I still feel like that’s where all of this is coming from for me. Like, I wanted freedom. I wanted the freedom to explore. I’m a very creative soul. I can tell by nature. So, like, I just want to be creating. I want to be free to do that. I want to be of service to other people. I’m just. I love tapping into other people’s energy, like connecting with them and just. Yeah, bringing ideas to life is like, what’s coming through right now. And I can see that for them as well. Like, they just want to be able to explore. They want. They want their independence. They want to be able to learn and build that resilience. But it feels to me, for them, that gets blocked a lot of the time. Like their soul is trying to learn and expand. Like they’re at that place where they’re ready to do that for themselves. And we just, like, we stop them, we block them, the words around them. Like you said, there’s so much that comes into their field, and then if they don’t have those emotional intelligence skills, they just start, you know, to repeating all the things that they hear essentially, and believing that that is true versus what is actually true and what lights them up in the direction that they actually want to go in and explore for themselves.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, there’s so many distractions. I mean, just, as an adult, as, for all of us. Right? Adults or teenage, but teenagers especially, you know, I mean, it’s a. It’s a very. Like, even if you had an amazing teen life, the. It’s still weird. It’s still just like, awkward. Like you’re still trying to, you know, you’re trying to figure out and you know, like, you’re gonna be out of your house soon and living as an adult. And then it’s like. It’s just like, oh, so strange, you know, this popped my mind about,

Wendy says she became fearful of public speaking as a teenager

I had. I had posted a reel a couple weeks ago, ended up going like viral on Tick Tock, which was wild because Tick Tocks, that’s talk about awkward. But anyway, anyways, I know I just throw my stuff on there just for the hell of it, you know, And I’m like, why is this thing so popular? It’s like 27, 000 views or something crazy. But anyways, all it was was the video of me, and I was Just talking direct to camera. And I said, when I was. When I was a little girl, kids used to make fun of my laugh. And so I literally would try to stop laughing out loud because they were making fun of me. And so I thought, okay, my laugh m. Must really be bad. So I just started going, like. I would try, like, laugh with my mouth closed. And then I said, I, had a teacher in high school that basically made fun of my speech, and she was criticizing me in front of the class. I was standing up in class, like, doing a book report. She criticized me. And then I became fearful of public speaking, so I shut down my voice, shut down my laugh. I shut down my voice. And then in the real, I went on to say that I had a boyfriend that beat the. Out of me, and I therefore stopped standing up for myself. And no, I. I had stood up to him, and then he beat the shit out of me. And then I. In my mind, that was okay. I shouldn’t stand up for myself, because this is what happens. And you think about those three critical moments as a teenager and how that affected me. My whole. I mean, that thread stayed with me in my 20s. Those. You think about this, too. It. It also was my choice in my relationships. Friends, I’m, in air quotes here. Friends, you know, you think are friends. And, like, the people that I chose in my life all stemmed back from all of that. Some from that criticism and then some. Right. But. But think that if I had a coach to. To speak to, and I could, and. And this coach would tell me, Wendy. No, no, no, honey, you keep laughing. You get back up there and you. You say your speech. You do you, like, don’t you ever shut down ever, ever, ever? Because, I mean, that took me decades to unravel all that crap. So I know for a fact if I. If I. I see I needed you back then.

Kristi Simons: If I had Christy, I needed you, too, as much, for sure.

Wendy Valentine: But, you know, like, think about that. I’m sure we all have a moment.

Kristi Simons: They’re, like, energetic. They’re energetic ties, too. Yeah, energetically speaking. They like that stuff. It creates, like, buildup. It creates blockages until we’re ready to, like, actually release and let it go. So, yeah, it does almost make you feel like you’re, like, restricted, like you’re tied up. And. And honestly, for a lot of us, too, like, a lot of that will go sub. Like, it will be subconscious, and we don’t even realize until we actually sit with ourselves and we allow it the space to come up As I said, I was just numbing all of that because I didn’t want to hear any of it back then. I also didn’t realize either. Like, I wouldn’t have had the language to speak about it the way I do now, but that was essentially, like, come full circle. What I wanted to highlight is that the external factors, too, like, I wish she knew that you’re never going to be able to control any of that. The only thing that you can control is yourself. And so once you tap into that power, as I spoke of in the beginning, like you do, you become unstoppable. Once you understand how your mind, body, and soul are all connected, how it all works, your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual energy, like, just making sure that you’re checking in with that, and it’s not to say that you’re going to have, like, perfect days. There’s no perfection here. It’s literally just progress. It’s just progress and coming back to this again and again. And by coming back to this, I mean just like yourself. It’s just, you are your greatest work. This is your life, and you deserve to be able to show up for it in a way that feels truly authentic and that helps you to feel truly confident. And confidence comes from those four key areas and just, putting that and making that a priority for yourself.

Intuition for Women and Teens was formerly Confident Teen

Wendy Valentine: So I’m curious, with your podcast, is it mostly, Is it the moms that are listening or is it the teens that are listening or both?

Kristi Simons: Yeah, it’s definitely the moms, which is maybe where, like, the name change came from, because it was formerly Confident Teen. And then recently I was. Yeah, I was just in a meditative session, and it came through, like, very strongly that it was time for a change. So I changed it to Intuition for Women and Teens, because it really is the moms, like, the soul led, ambitious women who are raising teens that I connect with. And it’s the teens that end up usually having, like, a lot of resistance to. To stepping outside of their comfort zone and, you know, embracing this new language. Right. When you get so comfortable hearing and doing things a certain way. but it’s fascinating to me, like, once they do the shifts over time that you’re able to witness, actually, I should say that they are able to witness. Like, it’s profound. And it comes back to those beliefs, like, believing that they are not enough, believing that people are judging them, that they, like, won’t be essentially accepted for who they are is what comes back so often. And then it shifts not to, like, oh, people are starting to accept me now. It’s like I’m starting to accept myself. And I realize the more that I do that, the more I’m going to connect with people that are actually aligned, with me that are, you know, meant to be.

Wendy Valentine: You think, too, that it’s, you know, the. The stronger we become as women, then we raise stronger sons and daughters, and then, therefore, they become strong, and then they, you know, it’s like this beautiful ripple effect.

Kristi Simons: Yeah, yeah, absolutely. As I spoke of in the beginning, the community being in that environment, like hiring my own coach that is, and her name is Heather Chauvin, by the way. I don’t know if you know her, if you’ve ever. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, yeah, that’s right. That’s how we got connected.

Kristi Simons: This is the connection.

Wendy Valentine: Yes, yes.

Kristi Simons: So that just came. Yeah, I wanted to make sure I highlighted that as well. But she has significantly impacted my life. Back when I had my son was when I really hit a rock bottom. I. And I see it as a rock bottom only because, like, the decision I made then, there was so much shame and so much guilt that I had to move through, but I essentially chose to stop breastfeeding so that I could just get back to drinking. And then with my daughter, I had the realization and was like, oh, my gosh, what am I doing? and so I just had to move through that, really release that and let that go. And that’s when I found her. And she really helped me to, like, hear all of those thoughts and then to tap into love versus all the fear and the shame and everything that was coming up. Like, she taught me how to move through that. And, yeah, she has just had a profound impact on my life. It’s obviously the reason, too, that I left teaching and that I’m doing the work I do today. And it just kind of grew organically. It started with tutoring, then I was kind of doing, like, life coaching, just life skills. And then it moved into emotional intelligence. And now it feels more like spiritual life coach, and just attracting that are soul led. So it’s very, very cool.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah, it’s. It’s an awesome, awesome niche to be in. It really can make a huge. Well, you already are. You are making a huge difference in the world.

Reverse engineering the emotions is something that you do regularly

Yeah. the reverse engineering the emotions. Tell us about that.

Kristi Simons: Yeah, so this is. Well, as a former teacher, I feel like there are a lot of things, again, that I can bring from teaching into the work that I do now. And one thing that we were always taught to highlight was reverse engineering, like, a concept, an expectation that we had for our students. And so I see it the same way now. It’s just at the end of the day. And we spoke about this just in conversation with, like, where you’re at, like, how you travel and you’re doing your book tour and your work the way you’re doing it. And it was just having this realization that it’s like, oh, my gosh. Yeah. When it comes down to all of the things that you have, why do you have them? Like, why do we need all of these things? And realizing that at the end of the day, everything comes back to how you want to feel. And feelings, to me, like, emotions. And emotion is just the E for emotion stands for energy in motion. So it’s just energy in motion. It’s chemicals in our body that are creating signals, and that’s literally what we are after. Like, this is where emotional intelligence, all of this stuff all ties in. It’s really about reverse engineering how you want to feel. So this is something that I have been doing for myself on a daily basis. And this is what brings me, or has brought me closer and closer and continues to. To my authenticity and to things that I love and feeling my absolute best and slowly shedding the worries and the doubts and all the judgments that I’m perceiving, too, and the comparisons that are coming up and all that stuff, right? Feeling like I’m not fitting in, even though I’m just. I’m starting to be more like me. And that’s, like, that’s how it should be. I once had this visual of, like, all people just being, like, every single possible, like, color of the rainbow. And, like, if everybody was just, like, one blue, or we were all, like, blue, but a bunch of shades of blue, like, it wouldn’t be as beautiful as it is if everybody just shines their light in their own way. and so that is essentially reverse engineering how you want to feel. It’s writing out, like, brain dumping a list of things that are, like, on your heart. So really taking that time to connect with yourself and then pulling out the feelings, those are. This is where you ask yourself the questions, like, how would this make me feel if I do this? And then recognizing that if there are, like, bigger goals that you have for yourself, bigger visions or dreams that you have, you can still go after that feeling just by putting small habits on your calendar. And then you’re starting to shift yourself into, because that version of you that wants that vision that you have, like, she is feeling or he is feeling this way about it. So you have to align yourself energetically with the feeling in order to get there, in order to receive all of the like next steps that will guide you towards that path. Have you read

Wendy Valentine: And I love the whole reverse engineering concept. I mean I, I talk about that like with, you know, this is how I, why I’m at where I’m at right now. Because I reverse engineer this dream of mine, right?

Kristi Simons: Of it kind of feels like manifesting to me. Like that’s kind of what just came through. But I don’t even call it manifesting. Like I just call it trusting myself. Like it’s just trusting myself and trusting the feeling. Like you making me feel like a dance party. I’m like, I want to follow you. I’m gonna be all up in all your stuff forever now just because of your energy.

Wendy Valentine: Dance party.

Kristi Simons: I’m gonna take a bite of my hair really quick.

Wendy Valentine: Take a bite of your pair.

Each emotion has an energy, has a frequency, right. Just like the frequency of electricity

So there’s there’s a book called. Oh my gosh, why can’t I remember the name of it? It’s by David Hawkins. He’s actually from. He was incidental, I think he’s passed away, but an amazing author. And he talked about emotions and how. So there’s 19 basic emotions that we all have as a human being and that each emotion has an energy, has a vibration as a frequency, right. Just like the frequency of anything of electricity. Right. And he, I don’t know how in the world but how he did this but did some type of project where he was able to measure the frequencies of all the different emotions. Whether you know, gratitude being the highest and I think the lowest is like depression, right? And if you think about it too like the, the frequencies of that. If like we’re like woohoo. Excited like you’re the literally the energy wave is super fast when you’re, you’re feeling gratitude or joy or happiness, right? Like the energy wave is literally running super fast. And then when you’re depressed or you’re feeling jealousy or grief or anger, it’s very, very slow. Which makes sense, right? Because when we’re sad or depressed, we’re, you know, we are slow, our bodies are slow, our minds are slow, like everything is. But when we’re excited, we’re feeling gratitude, we’re like literally radiating. Our energy is radiating. And what I’ve that when I read that book, I’ll think of the name of it. Anyways, I read that book and one of like the Darkest nights of my soul. And. And it clicked for me. I was like, oh, shit. I literally have control over my emotions. You know what I mean? I was like, oh, okay, this feels like. Like, what does depression feel like? When I was obviously very depressed, I was like, I’m slow, I’m sluggish. My, my, my. I’m, radiating just Bl. Right. Like, and we’ve all experienced that. Like, someone walks into a room, they either light up the room, totally dim it down. Right. So we know what that feels like. We all do. Like, okay, what does joy feel like? Oh, it feels like this. And you can work your way up that ladder of higher emotions at the same time. One thing I did realize also with this. Another aha. Was it’s okay to. To feel grief, it’s okay to feel anger. It’s okay. Like, all of these. Again, we’re human beings being human. We’re built with all of these emotions. Use those emotions, learn from those emotions, knowing that they can shift, you can move them. Like, you have the power to move those emotions. And because, Right. Like, I mean, of course, like, when my brother died, for example, I’m. I’m not going to be like, I need to feel gratitude and be at a high energy. Like, no, I give myself permission to be on the bottom here and feeling like absolute shit, and I’m going to cry and. Wow. eventually you want to move out of those states of low energy, right? Because the longer you stay in those lower energies, then it does affect you. Right. Physically and mentally, spiritually, emotionally, all of that. So I. Yeah, I just wanted to share that. That was probably a big eye opener for me. And going back to my. To. To teen, you know, the teen.

The topic of teens. Even though it’s not hard being a teenager, that it can be very hard

The topic of teens. If. If a teenager knows that it’s okay to have anger, it’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to. And that knowing that they can control their emotions and have that emotional intelligence.

Kristi Simons: Well, and that’s the resilience piece, right? Because we all get to those places. I look at it too. Like, it makes me feel, like, dense. Like, I. I can even see this in other people. Like, whether it’s like a lot of like, density versus, like, they have capacity to receive you and to be able to actually connect. So the same goes for your teen. And everybody is intuitive. Everybody knows, right? Like, you can tell if they are closed off versus if they are, like, open and ready to receive you. It’s. They make it very obvious. and so, yeah, it’s just about understanding that we don’t have to get stuck there. But that all of the feelings are so important because they’re happening for us. There is something in all of them that if we actually took time to look at that, it would help us learn so much about ourselves. And that’s really the whole point. And it doesn’t mean that for every single thing that comes up, you need to sit pen and paper and, and figure everything out. It doesn’t have to be like that. It’s just again, intuitively just following like what feels good to you and then just align yourself like making sure that you reverse engineer to get back to where you want to be once you’re ready.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. Just the awareness, being conscious.

Kristi Simons: Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: Of what you can be seen and. Yeah. Like really. And I don’t know, like I think too is like as we get older, we do have a tendency to shut out that intuition. And as teens it still can be very, very strong because then like when you get out into the, to the world and you’re working and you’re raising kids, you’re like, wait, what intuition? You know, so for teens though, it is actually easier. They don’t have as. Even though it’s not to say it’s not hard being a teenager, that it can be very hard. But they also have more moments I think of stillness than that we do as adults.

Kristi Simons: Yeah. Well, I once heard it described too by a teen. She said that one of the most challenging parts is that like those thoughts that I spoke of earlier, like when they come through and they’re very like fear based. If they, like if they grab hold of those, it almost feels like an undertow that starts to like, pull you down type of like visual is like what she brought up. It’s just like. And then it’s like once you, once you start kind of down that rabbit hole of thinking all those thoughts, it’s just like it’s never ending essentially. and so it’s becoming aware and like how do you. Yeah. Break that cycle for yourself? So yeah, definitely having the awareness is how you do it. And just practicing growing that muscle.

Wendy Valentine: Yeah. And even starting to, to I always say like, sometimes we don’t really need to learn anything new. It’s the unlearning. It’s the unlearning of what’s not working for you, what’s not in alignment with you. And if I’d known that as a teenager to unlearn some of the things that had been taught to me, just like you said earlier, you know, they like our Parents were doing the best that they could with what they were taught. Right?

Kristi Simons: Yeah.

Wendy Valentine: So, and it’s. It’s not really like blaming, or being upset at them. Like, I can’t believe, you know, or, you know, even to be upset at the teacher that said that to me that day. Like, well, she obviously, was doing what she had been taught, which is not very good. But I forgive all of that. Right. We all should forget. We don’t have to. But forgive where you can and be able to move on from and learn from it and go, okay, I can rise above this.

You start to see people, yourself included, through a different lens

Kristi Simons: That’s the other beautiful part about, like, making progress and just creating progress on a daily basis is you’ll also start to notice that, like, your shift or your perspective not only shifts, like, within, it also shifts without. And so you start to see people, yourself included, through, like, a different lens. And it is definitely more loving. And again, you just continue working the muscle, and it just continues to get stronger and stronger. And then you’re able to tap into your own feelings and also other people’s. Like, you can really start to connect with that because your walls aren’t up anymore. And it makes sense. Makes life so much easier. It really, truly does.

Wendy Valentine: I know. I know it is. I had a experience the other day where it was like, something that were, like, the old Windy would have been so worked up. Like, I would have been so annoyed. I wouldn’t. Oh, my gosh. But now I was just like, whatever. You just let it go. Because I’m like, like you said earlier. But, like, what can you control? I can control me. Right? So it’s like, how can I control these emotions internally and just let them Again, as you said, it’s like energy in motion. Right. Just let it flow, let it flow and let it go. So you have. You have the podcast, you do one, ah, on one coaching.

Kristi Simons: I have a group coaching, ah, program for teens that happens on Sundays. And we literally do like four Sundays of the month. It’s mental, physical, emotional, spiritual energy. And then it just rotates monthly, rinsing and repeating the same process over and over again because we don’t need to complicate things. and just the community connection, right, is, as I said, probably like the highlight, just being able to connect with other souls who are navigating the same challenges and wanting to just hear a different language. So that’s the, teen soul group that happens on Sundays. And then throughout the week, I do soul readings and, Reiki energy healing and meditations for soul Led women, just looking to move through their own energetic block and wanting more clarity and more connection with themselves so they can connect with others. I also do offer, if it ever feels aligned, like, I do connect with loved ones on the other side as well. So that is something that has been coming through a lot in the readings that I do. So that’s been really, really fun.

Wendy Valentine: Wow, that’s so cool.

Kristi Simons: Some of the way. Some of the ways that I work with people.

Wendy Valentine: That is amazing. I love it. Wow. You were. I’m so glad you took the leap.

Kristi Simons: Thank you. Yeah, you know what? That. That means so much, because I actually did have a client, just on the weekend, and it’s somebody who came to me, and she wanted to book this as a birthday gift for herself. And she told me, too, that, like, she kind of hesitated, but then she was like, no. Like, I just. I felt really excited. Like, so I followed that poll. And so I remember asking her at the beginning, because I go through, like, my whole spiel before a soul reading, and I asked her, like, if. And I felt like I needed to ask her. I’m like, if there’s somebody who wants to come through from the other side, like, are you open to that? Because I just want to respect people’s boundaries, too. And she kind of gave me this answer. Like, I don’t. Like, I. I don’t want to get my hopes up, essentially, because I don’t feel like anybody will. And I was like, okay, that’s confirmation enough. Like, her brother showed up. She lost him when she was actually a teenager. He passed away at 8 years old. And, yeah, it was just. It was so profound for her, like, once he came through and just, like, she was able to connect with him, like, not only, like. Like, feeling wise, like, physically, but also emotionally. And then she was almost, like, being led in the session to, like, intuitively answer some things for herself. And, yeah, he just sent her so many beautiful signs, and it was just so cool to be able to be a part of that. So, I mean, I love my soul group. I love teaching emotional intelligence, but really, truly, like, these are the gifts that have opened up for me in the last little while. And again, never could have ever expected this coming. but, yeah, it’s just. It’s so incredible to be able to do this work and to connect with other people’s energy in that way and to be able to, like, share in that connection with, like, their loved ones is just. It’s magic. Ah.

Wendy Valentine: that is so awesome. I love that yeah.

Kristi Simons: You know, thank you.

Wendy Valentine: Being here in Sedona, this is. There’s a lot of. You need to come here. This is where it’s at.

Kristi Simons: I know. I’m selling everything. I’m buying myself an rv and I’ll meet you out there.

Wendy Valentine: Oh, my God, that’d be so cool. Thank you so much. And where can we find you?

Kristi Simons: yeah, so probably most active, check out the podcast, Intuition for Women and Teens. I would say, it’s available anywhere you listen to your podcast. And I’m on Instagram. I share daily messages. and yeah, you can send me a private message there. I love connecting with people.

I will answer you. Christy Simons coaching. com is my website

I will answer you. And, it’s Christy Simons S I M M O N S coaching. I was about to say dot com. That’s my website. But, yeah, no dot com for the Instagram.

Wendy Valentine: Christy Simons coaching.com for your website. Thank you so much. You’re awesome.

Kristi Simons: Thank you. I appreciate you, everyone.

Wendy Valentine: Have a great day. Thank you.